Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. In my experience, the reason of your problem is a combination of your life, beliefs and of course family members. Surgery could have made you basically anxious and the attitude of your husband made it worse. Anxiety disorder is usually treated with a combination of psychotropic drugs, psychotherapy, yoga and meditation. Psychotherapy techniques streamline your life style and meditation and yoga techniques helps calm your mind, body, streamline your metabolism and thinking style. You need to find a suitable therapist. Alternatively,I can provide you with the required counseling and psychotherapy techniques to overcome these problems ONLINE. Please describe the whole problem in detail and post a direct question to me. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.