Brief Answer:
need some details.

Detailed Answer:
Hello
Welcome here.
I can understand your concerns for your son.

Kindly give some more details about his problem:

1. What all drugs has he been addicted to? Currently takes what drug along with adderall?
2. Since when has he been taking drugs?
3. Has he faced any legal consequences due to this?
4. Any attempts in past to quit drugs?
5. Whats his occupation?
6. Since when you are observing behavioral changes in him?
7. Any treatment taken for de-addiction in past?

Hope to hear from you soon.

Thanks.

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Brief Answer:
Harm reduction.

Detailed Answer:
Hello again.

Thanks for the details.

Dear concerned mother,

As per your details, your son is using pot for around 15 years, has history of drinking in school and is having a strained marriage. He was abstinent for 2 years but started with drugs again.

I would like to tell you that drug dependence is proven to be a brain disease and has to be managed on an individual basis.

Pot addiction fairly a psychological dependence rather than physical dependence.

In case of your son, I think he started of with drugs for fun or due to peer pressure in high school. As he has had strained relationship with his wife, this could have precipitated his drug abusing habits.

In such cases, there are two possible ways of management (chosen on the basis of willingness of client):

1. Detoxification and rehabilitation under the supervision of a psychiatrist. Keep in mind that 'relapse' is the nature of the 'disease' of drug dependence.
This will encompass some medicines and behavior therapies like motivation enhancement therapy.

2. Harm reduction- If he is not willing to quit drugs completely, he can be taught the ways to minimize the harm caused by drug dependence.
Say for example;
If he wish to continue pot (or is unable to quit pot), he can be persuaded to go for regular health check-ups so that any health damage due to pot can be detected at the earliest.

or

He can be persuaded to not smoke as it can directly affect his lungs.
However, if is adamant to smoke, then he can be persuaded to not smoke in front of family members as passive smoking can harm others.

He should not abuse drugs at his work place. This can cause his detention from work.

Similarly, you can device the strategies for harm reduction.

Regarding his crying behavior, may be, his marital problems are leading him to depression. A marriage counselor can help to sort out the issues.
However, if there are no chances of compromise, then divorce can be considered. Do not let the pressure of continuing a strained relationship lead him to more drug abuse.

I do not understand why adderall was given to him. This drug itself has abuse potential. An antidepressant drugs were a better choice in my opinion.

I hope that my suggestions could be of some help to you.

If you have more queries, feel free to discuss further.

Kindly close the discussion if you are satisfied with the response and give your valuable feedback.

I wish good health for your son.

Take care.
Thanks.

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