Life style changes, positive atmosphere, engaged
Hi XXX, Thanks for using HCM.
I went through the query and understood your concern and also appreciate your care towards the family.
Since you need to manage for years it is better you make her busy in some work, activities and also to spend some time in relaxation techniques
like yogasana. Spend some time with her every day during your leisure hours and make her understand gradually about the generation gaps and also make her understand that every one like their own style of living.
Once in a month or fortnightly you can ask your children to spend some time for her (better is outside home in some cool and calm place) so that she can feel happy and comfortable with your children.
Since she is depressed and if you leave her alone her mind will be filled with negative ideas more than positive ideas, so keep her engaged in some works but without telling the reason for involvement. Keep giving some pleasant surprises to her so that for next couple of weeks she should involve in them (surprise activities like editing photos, paintings, fishing, stitching etc) and mean time she as well as your children will also feel good among themselves.
Avoid talking the past events and also any bad incident or if anything that hurts any of the family members to create positive atmosphere in the house.
I hope these may help you to have a good relation. If this fails after applying for at-least couple of months then she need to visit a good psychologist
for her management.
Hope this helps you. Feel free to ask if any further information and I will be glad to answer them.