Hello What kind of antidepressants is he taking? We have two problems here. Depression itself can cause loss of libido and the antidepressants do nothing much in terms of libido. They may treat symptoms of depression but are worst for libido. You also sited you yourself is going through menopause. Do you have problems with dryness, bloating, mood swings etc? I suggest have patience because both of you are in a rocking boat. Consult your psychiatrist for change of antidepressants. Keep active and exercising, at this juncture of life it will do wonders to your self image and interest in sex. Take care