What causes erection problem when i am anxious?

Posted on Mon, 8 Jun 2015 in Sexual Health
Question: over the years i have suffered from anxiety when approaching a woman during sex. I am fine on my own but when im with a woman i cant get hard. I cant take another rejection from not being able to perform its killing my self esteem. this happened with my ex the first couple times. thankfully she was different and liked me enough to work with me and eventually things became good. I am single now and need something to help me out here. i recently went to a gp and he gave me 4 10mg cialis pills. I took 3, so 30mgs and it did nothing, i was unable to perform AGIAN! should i try viagra? i think the herbal pills i use to take had the same ingredients in it that viagra has. I need something that works or i will lose my chance with another girl
Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi 2 hours later
Brief Answer:
Psychological erectile dysfunction respond to medicines and relaxation

Detailed Answer:
Hello thanks for asking from HCM for your health related queries

I can understand your concern. After reading your history I can tell you that the reason for poor performance in your case is functional and its not organic. You are getting erections some times but when you approach any woman you suffer from anxiety and this results in loss of erection. All this have resulted in loss of confidence and this has further aggravated the problem.

Poor confidence->>Poor performance->>Poor confidence cycle has been formed. To come out of this psychological erectile dysfunction you have to break that cycle. Many anti-anxiety medicines especially Bupropion, Mirtazapine, Trazodone etc are excellent anti-anxiety drugs and these are also helpful in erectile dysfunction. Trazodone is used by many doctors for poor erection and this provides excellent results. Cialis or Tadalafil has not worked in such case other medicines of this group like Sildenafil (Viagra) or Verdanafil can be tried. Both have excellent results in erectile dysfunction. Visit your doctor for detailed prescription of these drugs.

I would also advise you to do relaxation exercises. Reassure yourself that nothing is wrong. Spend more and more time in foreplay and this would help in sustaining erection. Don't think that you would perform bad because this would increase the anxiety only. You are just 28 and its not very common to see erectile dysfunction at your age. If possible get yourself checked for any hypertension and diabetes. Both are common medical causes for erectile dysfunction.

Some herbal supplements like Tantex Forte and Confido have excellent results. These supplements don't require a medical prescription and can be purchased for big medical shops. When used regularly they provide best results. 2 tablets twice a day for at least 2-3 months result in improvement in erection. You can talk to your doctor and can discuss about these supplements.

Thanks, I hope this helps you. Please try to relax yourself and reassure yourself that nothing is wrong.
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