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Posted on Wed, 11 May 2016
Question: Dr Seikhoo Bishnoi please. i am feeling like i don't want to live again....I am so lonely and knowing I can never see XXXXXXX again is really hurting me....he will just file a criminal trespass against me....and i could do jail time....I am getting so I don't really care at all about anything anymore not eating not going anywhere....I am supposed to see my care manager and all I see are long empty days without XXXXXXX and being alone for the rest of my life.....my daughter and I had a fight because I said I just wish God would come and everything would be over with..I am tired of feeling sad and lonely for XXXXXXX ..I am old and don't care about anything much anymore.
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Please accept the change

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

You have to accept the change and there are no other options left. He is sick and his condition is not improving and he is not recognising anyone. In such situation hoping for his is not a right option. You have to move out. You have to come out of the depression also. Please distract yourself, attend the prayers, visit someone you know, talk to XXXXXXX to keep yourself busy. This will reduce the bad thoughts. Please don't fight with anyone because this increases the stress only. Please try to understand.

Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (15 hours later)
I know you are right but at night when i am alone i feel so empty. No XXXXXXX XXXX is picking fights because she is scared I am going to go backwards again. Today was somewhat better and I am going to try to see if i can get a job which would help me a lot not only financially but emotionally. Staying home for long periods or going to the massage center doesn't help me it is emply there with no one coming so I am left alone for long periods. i am going to the temple today and then on sunday hope to meet with Chabad in Prescott Valley. I pray that the car holds out. It is kind of big and i don't see over the steering wheel very well because i am so short. I am better on the days when I am not alone so much...but those are few and far between...today seems better than yesterday...I was beginning to have suicidal thoughts again mot thinking anything was going to work out. i am hoping for the check back from the airlines and so we will at least have some money towards the tickets but we don't have enough to actually buy a ticket right away...we need to get some more money for the tickets and a place to live in Israel.



Do you think that XXXXXXX didn't recognize Sam? Maybe he also forgot me as his former girlfriend. How long can he go on getting worse and worse before someone does something about him? XXXXXXX said that he was playing music so loud that it was blasting everyone out...the other store owners had people in them but he did not..he doesn't want anyone in his store which is crazy because how is he going to make any sales...he should really sell it to someone else but he doesn't have the mental capacity to make that judgment...he doesn't need the money. In fact two years ago he was losing money on the store every day probably because he chases everyone out with the loud music and ideas of people stalking him....I just wish I could find someone else whom I love more than I did him but I am not really actively looking for just anyone...I have to get over him first.
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (7 hours later)
Brief Answer:
You have to move away from XXXXXXX

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Its the loneliness which is affecting you the most. You are accepting that when you have XXXXXXX or XXXXXXX then you don't feel much bad. This means that if you get a job or if you find a place or someone to keep yourself busy the bad thoughts will go away. So as you are also saying try to find a good place where you can do a job. Find any job which not only gives money but will keep you busy also.

In my opinion XXXXXXX recognised the XXXXXXX It is uncommon in schizophrenic to loose memory. He got angry on XXXXXXX which means that his paranoid delusions are still persistent. He is losing his business due to this paranoid delusion only. So keep one thing in mind you have to move away from XXXXXXX for your health and for your kids.

Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (1 hour later)
I felt better today...didn't think about XXXXXXX much at all just a little bit at shabbat but that is because their prayers include his name Baruch in almost every paragraph...s

so he remembers me too then if he recognized Sam? I am trying to let go and this time it seems like it is working....I am not feeling as bad as I once did...the job thing is really necessary for me now as i cannot go to Israel with the amount of money I get now...once I am in israel I will probably(I hope) do okay financially....the biggest problem is XXXXXXX going to school without being a citizen and without money that we can have here in XXXXXXX ...he can get grants here so i am just trying to think of a way we can go to Israel and he get to go to school over there..but tonight was a good night at the temple we enjoyed ourselves even more...I have a car to drive now which makes me feel a lot better.


Do you think that XXXXXXX is still mad about us contacting the police two years ago? He never seemed to get over that although he did talk to us one time after the first time we called because we were worried about him..today is another bad day...I am so broke and have so little money to even buy food...I am tired of everything...


I will never forget XXXXXXX I can't seem to get over him. Going to Israel seems like a dream. We can't work over there and XXXXXXX cant go to school over there so thats another dream that won't happen either. I am not sure I should even try to go there now
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (20 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Maintain your health and hope for the best

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Yes as he recognised XXXXXXX so he has probably not forgotten you. But since he is still paranoid so this is of no use. He has psychosis and has no improved and in future his chances of recovery are also less. This is because he has no access to treatment.

This is good that you are trying to forget him, because there are no better options left. Please try to get a job and gather money to maintain your mental and physical health. You have to improve for yourself and your children. Hope for the best.

Thanks
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Brief Answer: Please accept the change Detailed Answer: Hello again You have to accept the change and there are no other options left. He is sick and his condition is not improving and he is not recognising anyone. In such situation hoping for his is not a right option. You have to move out. You have to come out of the depression also. Please distract yourself, attend the prayers, visit someone you know, talk to XXXXXXX to keep yourself busy. This will reduce the bad thoughts. Please don't fight with anyone because this increases the stress only. Please try to understand. Thanks.