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Question: dr Seikhoo Bishnoi.I am feeling like I dont want to live. I am so lonely. I haven't enough money to live on and they denied my driver's license. XXXXXXX sleeps here but leaves me alone in the daytime. They refused me the chance for my drier's license but it was a mistake. I am tired of fighting everything and being alone all the time or most of it. XXXXXXX left late this morning to go to his Dad's house. I am always afraid something bad will happen ans XXXXXXX was put on prozac for his intrusive thoughts which I am afraid will cause him to be suicidal.Life is such a struggle I just wish it would end
Brief Answer:
Try again if possible
Detailed Answer:
Hello again,
If they refused the drivers licence then try to get in again in coming months. I am not sure about the rules but here in XXXXXXX one can apply for fresh licence in 3 months again. So you can practice again and try again.
If XXXXXXX is sleeping at your place then that is good. At least he is there to talk with you in evening. Nothing will happen to XXXXXXX because he is alright and Fluoxetine doesn't cause much adverse effects on body. He will not become suicidal. I am using the drug to a number of patients of mine and no incidence of increased suicide attempts was reported. So no need to worry.
Thanks.
Try again if possible
Detailed Answer:
Hello again,
If they refused the drivers licence then try to get in again in coming months. I am not sure about the rules but here in XXXXXXX one can apply for fresh licence in 3 months again. So you can practice again and try again.
If XXXXXXX is sleeping at your place then that is good. At least he is there to talk with you in evening. Nothing will happen to XXXXXXX because he is alright and Fluoxetine doesn't cause much adverse effects on body. He will not become suicidal. I am using the drug to a number of patients of mine and no incidence of increased suicide attempts was reported. So no need to worry.
Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you for your prompt reply. I am glad that you are in my life. I cannot get consistent counseling here. i can't afford forty dollars a time. I have nothing to do and no one to talk to during the day and it is hard to know why I am still here. The depression is settling in on me again. XXXXXXX in my life at first seemed like such a good thing. the possibility of getting married again and having a real home not living in poverty and in such transient circumstances gave me hope when I first started seeing him and now that is all gone. My ability to go to Israel is getting dimmer and dimmer as the days pass by and the money is not coming back..I am getting old and wonder what is going to happen to me as I age with no one with me. XXXXXXX is not working or going to school and that worries me that he spends all of his time on the computer. when I was 25 i was working at the hospital as a medical laboratory scientist until the depression and dissociative identity disorder got in the way(DID) and my first and then second marriage failed. I tended to marry abusive men like my mother and farther.
What do you think will happen if I email XXXXXXX again after the injunction is finished? I would just do it once not knowing how he would respond and tell him that I did not understand why he would push me away and that I still care and that I would always love him,,,just short like that. or would it be best to leave him alone and never contact him again...I go back and forth. Him being in my life gave me hope that in my old age I would maybe have a a companion and a purpose...I don't feel like I am worth anything because I cannot do much and am not enjoying my long lonely isolated days. Before he got so sick I thought of going back to school and going to Israel and maybe even working...I guess my heart isn't in living any more..I spend so much time alone and isolated that I don't feel like living. XXXXXXX just sleeps here and is gone all day at his dad's house playing on his computer without me there...I feel so sad all the time...the remeron is barely working though I use melatonin and valerian at night to help with the insomia.
I had to take a zanax and half a remeron(15 mg) today as the sadness was so bad. this is not the nicest place to live and being alone here is hard..
What do you think will happen if I email XXXXXXX again after the injunction is finished? I would just do it once not knowing how he would respond and tell him that I did not understand why he would push me away and that I still care and that I would always love him,,,just short like that. or would it be best to leave him alone and never contact him again...I go back and forth. Him being in my life gave me hope that in my old age I would maybe have a a companion and a purpose...I don't feel like I am worth anything because I cannot do much and am not enjoying my long lonely isolated days. Before he got so sick I thought of going back to school and going to Israel and maybe even working...I guess my heart isn't in living any more..I spend so much time alone and isolated that I don't feel like living. XXXXXXX just sleeps here and is gone all day at his dad's house playing on his computer without me there...I feel so sad all the time...the remeron is barely working though I use melatonin and valerian at night to help with the insomia.
I had to take a zanax and half a remeron(15 mg) today as the sadness was so bad. this is not the nicest place to live and being alone here is hard..
Brief Answer:
Try to keep yourself busy.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again,
Yes you can send XXXXXXX an email but only after injunction finishes. This would not have any legal issues and you can safely email him. His behaviour can't be predicted because he is still in psychosis. But in my opinion he should not report this to legal authorities. But I am not very sure.
Even if XXXXXXX is coming for sleep that is good because he is there to talk to you. Try to request him to start doing some work because he is 25 and he should be earning at this age. Living without work is really difficult.
You can take Xanax for anxiety but try to avoid taking its high doses regularly for long time. This is known to cause dependence. Just try to keep yourself busy, winters are coming and if possible try to find enjoyment in little things.
Thanks.
Try to keep yourself busy.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again,
Yes you can send XXXXXXX an email but only after injunction finishes. This would not have any legal issues and you can safely email him. His behaviour can't be predicted because he is still in psychosis. But in my opinion he should not report this to legal authorities. But I am not very sure.
Even if XXXXXXX is coming for sleep that is good because he is there to talk to you. Try to request him to start doing some work because he is 25 and he should be earning at this age. Living without work is really difficult.
You can take Xanax for anxiety but try to avoid taking its high doses regularly for long time. This is known to cause dependence. Just try to keep yourself busy, winters are coming and if possible try to find enjoyment in little things.
Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Okay. I just wish I could stop worrying about everything like where I am going to live and how to drive and pay for the car is so very hard. I wish i could just relax but that is proving nearly impossible for me. XXXXXXX is trying to find work but it is very hard as this is not a good place to find work for anyone not just XXXXXXX He has been applying to many places but without success.
How can I stop worrying about everything and freaking out? I am so hypervigilant and so afraid of living out on the street.
How can I stop worrying about everything and freaking out? I am so hypervigilant and so afraid of living out on the street.
Brief Answer:
Try to make small changes in life.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
You just have to learn to ignore the things. Try not to maximise the things like if you failed to get driving licence try not to maximise this. A lot of people fails in driving exams and this is not a very big deal to worry. Similarly also not minimise good things like XXXXXXX started sleeping at your place now appreciate this thing. There was a time when XXXXXXX was in hospital and you were even not allowed to meet him. At least the situation is far better now. Try to appreciate such small things. This will make things easier to you and you will definitely become happier. Please make such small changes in life and these will prove beneficial.
Thanks.
Try to make small changes in life.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
You just have to learn to ignore the things. Try not to maximise the things like if you failed to get driving licence try not to maximise this. A lot of people fails in driving exams and this is not a very big deal to worry. Similarly also not minimise good things like XXXXXXX started sleeping at your place now appreciate this thing. There was a time when XXXXXXX was in hospital and you were even not allowed to meet him. At least the situation is far better now. Try to appreciate such small things. This will make things easier to you and you will definitely become happier. Please make such small changes in life and these will prove beneficial.
Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I find I am so afraid of things getting bad to the point I get depressed and very anxious. I got an audit by the Internal Revenue Department today and fell apart. I am always expecting terrible things to happen as the result of what happened with XXXXXXX the court the car accidents and the complex PTSD. I spend so much time alone and afraid. I don't know how to stop it. I pray I can get to Israel.If XXXXXXX worked we could go. I can't work due to mobility issues from dystonia bad legs and bad back. I worry about money all the time. How can I stop this? I pray but find myself always afraid.
Brief Answer:
Try to gather money
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
All this is happening due to learned helplessness. Sometimes a significant traumatic incidence results in depression and if further events occur that also result in failure then individual learns that he would have only failures in life. This learned helplessness is the reason that you are always expecting terrible things to happen. You have to change your mindset about things. Just as I have asked before also, try to ignore things, don't maximise bad things and don't minimise good things. Don't generalise any bad event to your whole life.
I know it's easy to say but difficult to follow, still at least give this a try. Try to gather money and some problems will be solved.
Thanks
Try to gather money
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
All this is happening due to learned helplessness. Sometimes a significant traumatic incidence results in depression and if further events occur that also result in failure then individual learns that he would have only failures in life. This learned helplessness is the reason that you are always expecting terrible things to happen. You have to change your mindset about things. Just as I have asked before also, try to ignore things, don't maximise bad things and don't minimise good things. Don't generalise any bad event to your whole life.
I know it's easy to say but difficult to follow, still at least give this a try. Try to gather money and some problems will be solved.
Thanks
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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