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How To Overcome Pain During Intercourse?
Question: im married its been 50 days have not done intercourse yet im scared of pain pls suggest some cream tablet so taht i dont feel pain at all
Brief Answer:
first intercourse issue
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
thanks for the query to hcm,
I am really sorry that after 50 days of marriage already you have been unable to consume your marriage, with the fear that it would pain during initial penetration and insertion and there would be stretch and severe pain anyhow.
To clear your doubts here are some facts,
As you have been a virgin, its natural for your vaginal walls to be taut and toned and the initial insertion would be slightly difficult but if you intentionally cause contraction of vaginal muscles during the act itself, then penetration would not be possible at all and pain can be excruciating. This is called dyspareunia.
But in most of the cases in healthy women, the cause remains psychological.
To explain further, there may be slight bleeding due to mild tearing of hymen which covers your vaginal entrance and the pain should be very light as if an abrasion, but you need to relax at that very moment and take deeper breaths to allow penetration. Once the penetration is done then the vaginal muscles shall relax and natural cervical fluids shall further lubricate the vagina decreasing frictional pain and you should be comfortable.
Also advisable is to spend time on foreplay to allow better lubrication of vagina and also use of lubricants during the first time.
Use of lignocaine or prilocaine jelly is often advised to make the local area numb for at least 1/2 hr which assists penetration. You can apply it both at the entrance and even at the inside walls initially without any side effect. The only disadvantage is that it will decrease your perception of any local sensations which sex can bring in.
you may try these options and feel free to discuss further.
Regards
first intercourse issue
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
thanks for the query to hcm,
I am really sorry that after 50 days of marriage already you have been unable to consume your marriage, with the fear that it would pain during initial penetration and insertion and there would be stretch and severe pain anyhow.
To clear your doubts here are some facts,
As you have been a virgin, its natural for your vaginal walls to be taut and toned and the initial insertion would be slightly difficult but if you intentionally cause contraction of vaginal muscles during the act itself, then penetration would not be possible at all and pain can be excruciating. This is called dyspareunia.
But in most of the cases in healthy women, the cause remains psychological.
To explain further, there may be slight bleeding due to mild tearing of hymen which covers your vaginal entrance and the pain should be very light as if an abrasion, but you need to relax at that very moment and take deeper breaths to allow penetration. Once the penetration is done then the vaginal muscles shall relax and natural cervical fluids shall further lubricate the vagina decreasing frictional pain and you should be comfortable.
Also advisable is to spend time on foreplay to allow better lubrication of vagina and also use of lubricants during the first time.
Use of lignocaine or prilocaine jelly is often advised to make the local area numb for at least 1/2 hr which assists penetration. You can apply it both at the entrance and even at the inside walls initially without any side effect. The only disadvantage is that it will decrease your perception of any local sensations which sex can bring in.
you may try these options and feel free to discuss further.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj
How about after applying prilox gel and how much time before I should apply & it will make my vagina numb and i will feel no pain please suggest some medicine as I don't feel pain at all as im super scared and its been 50 days now I want to do as my husband gets irritated with me
Brief Answer:
prilocaine can be used.
Detailed Answer:
well you can apply the prilocaine gel atleast 10 min prior to action as the effect generally takes 10-15 min to act.
But a complete loss of pain may not be possible with the cream application at all, unless you have been given a local anaesthesia , which is not a possibility to be considered in this case. I would like you to apply this prilocaine gel in your private time on your own and try using your finger for insertion and checking on the pain levels before going for the main act with your husband, this shall give your a reasonable idea as to what to expect during the act and whether its bearable pain or no pain.
Stress and raised anxiety levels are unnecessarily increase the perception of pain and make the anaesthetic gel less effective, so just relax and take a positive approach towards it and try it in person before going for the main act .
regards
prilocaine can be used.
Detailed Answer:
well you can apply the prilocaine gel atleast 10 min prior to action as the effect generally takes 10-15 min to act.
But a complete loss of pain may not be possible with the cream application at all, unless you have been given a local anaesthesia , which is not a possibility to be considered in this case. I would like you to apply this prilocaine gel in your private time on your own and try using your finger for insertion and checking on the pain levels before going for the main act with your husband, this shall give your a reasonable idea as to what to expect during the act and whether its bearable pain or no pain.
Stress and raised anxiety levels are unnecessarily increase the perception of pain and make the anaesthetic gel less effective, so just relax and take a positive approach towards it and try it in person before going for the main act .
regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj
But it will be really painful after applying gel u mean to say it will not numb at all super scared whether ever I will be able to do
Brief Answer:
Don't worry!
Detailed Answer:
I have to assure you that the pain would be comparable to any mild abrasion or needle prick, thats the best i can help you relate to, but to reassure that this is a normal feeling before the intercourse.
Hence i suggested that you should try application of the gel earlier in your privacy and try finger self insertion, If you can manage then you should be accustomed by the day of actual intercourse.
If still there is an issue then you should visit your local gynecologist for an opinion and local examination for other causes of pain like vulvodynia.
regards
Don't worry!
Detailed Answer:
I have to assure you that the pain would be comparable to any mild abrasion or needle prick, thats the best i can help you relate to, but to reassure that this is a normal feeling before the intercourse.
Hence i suggested that you should try application of the gel earlier in your privacy and try finger self insertion, If you can manage then you should be accustomed by the day of actual intercourse.
If still there is an issue then you should visit your local gynecologist for an opinion and local examination for other causes of pain like vulvodynia.
regards
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj
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