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21 Years. Stressed Out From Family Problem. What Help Can Be Given To Heal?
Hi, My 21 year old grandson is visiting me from another state. His Mother, divorced my son 15 years ago. She calls my grandson every 10 minutes on his cell and sends even more texts. She is still calls my son a lot also. She has tried her best to alienate her children from their father. She writes terrible things about my son on face book. She has remarried and has another child, but continues to harass my grandson and son. She recently divorced again and is back angry at my son. What is wrong with this woman? Why can't she let the past go? I can tell my grandson looks stressed while on the phone.....How can I help him heal?
Fri, 26 Jul 2013
Hello,
I understand your concern for your grandson and his difficulties in dealing with his own mother.This is a very unfortunate situation that should not have happened.I can suggest a couple of solutions.
1.May a responsible elderly person can take the initiative and talk to his mother.This person may be able to find out the exact nature of her problem and the motive behind her actions against her husband and son.True it will be difficult.Second divorce does suggest some abnormalcy. A qualifies psychiatrist may be able to help also.
2.If the source of the problem cannot be corrected then the victim must be made able to handle the problem.At 21 years your grandson is mature enough to handle himself.Some mental support from anyone close by may be helpful to him for overcoming stress.He should be made to understand the nature of the problem,the utter helplessness in solving it and hence be taught a way to live with it.
I wish that the problems would be settled soon and all of you would start living happily again.
I understand your concern for your grandson and his difficulties in dealing with his own mother.This is a very unfortunate situation that should not have happened.I can suggest a couple of solutions.
1.May a responsible elderly person can take the initiative and talk to his mother.This person may be able to find out the exact nature of her problem and the motive behind her actions against her husband and son.True it will be difficult.Second divorce does suggest some abnormalcy. A qualifies psychiatrist may be able to help also.
2.If the source of the problem cannot be corrected then the victim must be made able to handle the problem.At 21 years your grandson is mature enough to handle himself.Some mental support from anyone close by may be helpful to him for overcoming stress.He should be made to understand the nature of the problem,the utter helplessness in solving it and hence be taught a way to live with it.
I wish that the problems would be settled soon and all of you would start living happily again.
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Hi,
Thanks for using healthcare magic.
I have gone through your history.
You should take help of counselor / psychiatrist for detailed evaluation and management if you feel your grandson is under stress.
Doctor may confirm whether he is suffering from any psychiatric ailments like depression or adjustment disorder or not. Treatment would be directed as per cause.
Meanwhile, he may get benefit by doing stress management and relaxation exercise like yoga, meditation or breathing exercise for better control over stress.
Thanks.
Thanks for using healthcare magic.
I have gone through your history.
You should take help of counselor / psychiatrist for detailed evaluation and management if you feel your grandson is under stress.
Doctor may confirm whether he is suffering from any psychiatric ailments like depression or adjustment disorder or not. Treatment would be directed as per cause.
Meanwhile, he may get benefit by doing stress management and relaxation exercise like yoga, meditation or breathing exercise for better control over stress.
Thanks.
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