Hi,

Thank you so much for this query.
I am so sorry to hear about your difficulties with having erections unless you watch porn or read something sexy. Nothing kils a man moral more XXXXXXX the feeling of been unable to be good at having sex. It happens to many and you are not alone. The good news is, it is often psychological than actually representing an illness.

I am confident and feel comfortable telling you that the erection pathway is intact. To get any erections, you must have a stimulus. If books and porns can turn you on,, then a girl you love and feel comfortable having sex with will also turn you on. However, if there are any worries, fears or misunderstanding in your relationship, then you will feel unsecured or not confident enough. These will keep you away from the ex affair itself and you cannot get any erections. So please address all of these before becoming too worried if any lingers. The bad thing about this is it kills your confidence, makes you look at yourself as a failure and actually make future attempts more likely to fail than not. You need to believe in yourself again.

My advice is this:
Get a stable partner, build a trusted relationship where you both feel comfortable and secured, move on progressive and give it a try. It will work. Tee only reason why it will not work is if you have fears that make sexual encounters frightening. If there are any past experiences that have scared you, please share them with me so that I can address them and help you get over them.

I hope this addresses your query fully. If you have some more questions related to the above query to ask, feel free and i will provide answers happily.
I wish you good health.
Dr, Ditah, MD.

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Thank you so much for this follow up precision.

Erections need your mindset, stimulus and an intact pathway for the nerve impulse to travel and assure this. If porns can turn you on, then all is intact.

Please, all you need is to get your mindset back into it. Are you having a sexual partner? Have you failed to have erections when with a girl you for real desire?
Masturbation has in no way affected this act of having erections. It is purely psychological. If you put all in place with the rest frame of mind, you are as good as you were 7years ago if not better.

Its sudden nature make it more likely psychological than not. Pathological causes start and progress over time and not overnight. Check and look at what is happening different and adjust it. This will solve the problem. If you may want to share with me, then I may be able to help you more.

Hope this helps. Wish you well. Build your confidence, address the setbacks and attain even higher heights with your erections.
Dr. Ditah, MD.

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Hi and thanks for this follow up information.

Accutane is not a possible cause of this problem.

The solution to this problem lies within you. Beating the feeling of being unable to have an erection is the first and most important thing to do. You have technically hypnotized yourself. Tagging and seeing yourself as failure though i have assured you that this is a psychological cause is not helping. Feeling you cannot have erections, feeling sad and shy about it are the same recipes that prepare you for the next failure. How can you get emotionally and psychological involved in having erections when all you think about is failure? You must beat it by telling yourself as often as possible that you are normal.

I understand this may be difficult to do all by yourself at times. What I will suggest is you may consider meeting with a psychiatrist or sexologist to address this problem. I am confident when you beat the feeling of failure, you will be success.

Hope this helps. feel free to contact us again.
I wish you well.
Dr Ditah, D.

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Hi and thanks for this follow up question.

I totally understand how devastated you are by this difficulty getting an erection. The problem is real and the way out is to stop thinking about your failure and start being positive. As I have told you, if you don't have that genuine feeling and 100% mental involvement in a lady, she cannot turn you on. It is for the same reason that a lady you consider ugly cannot turn you on. So you have to change the way you see ladies. They should appear attractive to you or you should look for the lady you genuinely feel about. Otherwise, you will be unable to have erections. Is it because you are sick? NO. It is simply because your mindset is not conditioned to get sexually involved and so you cannot have any erections.

The problem will certainly go away. What makes it even worse now is the fact that you cannot get over it. When you stop thinking of being unable to have erections and seeing ladies attractive, then your solution is eminent. No one else but you can choose to be attracted to a lady. No one else but you can also choose to get mentally committed to having a sexual feeling towards a lady. This is why you hold the keys to your solution. Stop thinking I cannot, start thinking I can and get mentally involved into it. This is the solution.

Hope this helps.
Wish you good health.
Dr. Ditah, MD.

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Hi and thanks for posting.

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There is no other better method as of date than laser therapy. If you really want to try and deal with it, then accept the laser therapy bearing at heart the possible complications.


The best way out would have been you being able to accept it and just feel comfortable.

Wish you the best as you consider ways of handling this.

Dr. Ditah, MD

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Thank you for using our services and glad to know we we of help.
All the best.
Dr. Ditah, MD

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Hi and thanks for this follow up question.

I will like to suggest that you get consulted by a sexologist. He will teach you more on how to get your mind focused and execute the job.

Thanks and hope this helps.
Dr. Ditah, Md

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Brief Answer:
Yes

Detailed Answer:
It is all about the mindset. If you slowly refocus your ind on a lad as the stimulus and not porn stories and masturbation, you would witness a gradual improvement in your sexual arousal. Try and do these.

All the best.

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Brief Answer:
Re-focus your attention to what matters!

Detailed Answer:
Hi and thank you so much for this follow up.

The real issue here is how you focus your mind on getting sexually aroused by being with a lady you love rather than resorting to films/masturbation.

If you have heard of conditioning, then it is a process where you are made to react to things depending on the stimulus. normally, the stimulus for sexual arousal is seeing a lady or thinking of having sex, However, you have shifted yours from these traditional ones to movies and masturbation. if you could try and learn how to associate sexual arousal with being with a girl, the problem would be resolved by now. That is what I mean by mindset.

Hope this helps. Limit all the other distractions like masturbation and porn and focus more on getting aroused by a partner and you would soon start to improve and regain the natural pathways. I wish you well.
Thanks.
Dr. Ditah, MD

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