Hi, you seem to be quite concerned and you have got a reason to be.
Your second intercourse just a day before the expected menses carrys minimal possibility of impregnating her. However, the intercourse on the day of ovulation without any protection does carry the chances of
pregnancy. Even though you have withdrawn before ejaculation, some early few drops of semen do escape unknowingly which do carry high concentrate of sperms. Moreover, the pre ejaculation secretion (precum) also contains few sperms which are known to cause the pregnancy.
Urination before or after intercourse has no effect on ejaculation and/or sperms in ejaculation.
Now that she is 3 days late for menses, wait for one more week. If she does not get menses, perform urine pregnancy test and/or
ultrasonography for detection of pregnancy. These tests done earlier do not give reliable results.
The other possibility for delay in menses could be
stress.
If she is pregnant and does not want to continue with the pregnancy, Termination of Pregnancy can be performed safely with medicines up to 9 weeks of pregnancy. However, please do not take these medicines over the counter. They have to be prescribed by an Obstetrician and should be taken under his/her observation. Otherwise, there is some chance of
incomplete abortion and/or infection which may lead to
infertility in future.
And lastly, please practice a reliable method of
contraception like condom,
intrauterine device or pills in future.
I hope I have cleared the whole situation to you. Please take an informed decision.