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Posted on Tue, 8 Dec 2015
Question: Hi my name is XXXX. Umm this is a bit off but a series of events has left me stressed over whelmed , and in a panic...I don't even know if you all are real doctors and it worries me as well so without completely embarrassing myself too badly..I do not believe in bypolar! I thinks its the most overrated and over played disease ever. I have been told that I am bypolar and I've been with the same man for most 2 years and things are changing I'm just tired of always being at fault BC he doesn't see what I do and I've now officially slapped him in the face and pretty much abused him 3 times now...? I don't want to take meds but this has to stop!! He has yurned me into a monster i used to get abused and now im putting that pain on someone else and its not like me!!! Thats not who i am I would really just like someone to sit down and listen to the stories and what's going on and what we have both done both sides of it and honestly tell me why I am always at fault I feel like instead of him listening to me about something he's doing to make me upset even brought about calmy ends as I say it he throws something up to make it my fault never corrects it so it Is a constant circle and its got me so frustrated with him that I actually slapped him really hard last night ...its pretty obvious that help is needed somewhere...
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Answered by Dr. Alexander H. Sheppe (1 hour later)
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Hello, and thank you for your question.

I am certainly a real doctor. My name is Dr. Alexander Sheppe, and I am an XXXXXXX doctor working in New York City at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital, ranked #1 for Psychiatry in the United States. You are welcome to Google this information to verify it.

It sounds like you are having a lot of relationship trouble with your boyfriend. You have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a very real and very difficult illness to deal with -- but it sounds like your partner often uses this diagnosis against you, and you feel like your side of the story is not being heard. You have hit your partner, which is illegal, and you want help understanding why you have done this, and how to contain your temper, as well as understanding how to communicate with your partner better.

Fortunately, I do offer private therapy on this site. I'd like you to contact me at the following link:

tinyurl.com/DrSheppeAnswers

I want you to fill out a complete medical history so I can better understand your diagnosis of bipolar disorder. We can discuss your diagnosis and treatment, as well as how to deal with your partner, whom you feel does not treat you fairly. These are difficult subjects, but with information and professional therapy things can get better for you.

To touch on a couple subjects directly related to your post thus far -- it sounds like therapy will be essential for you in order to improve your relationship. Possibly even couples' therapy. And as much as you may not like it, medicine is very helpful in controlling some of the unwanted effects of bipolar disorder, which can include impulsive acts like hitting other people. So I think a combination of medicine and therapy will help you, and I will be happy to talk more about it at my private link.

Again I am Dr. Sheppe. Please reach out to me at the link below for a personalized comprehensive evaluation, treatment recommendations, and individual therapy:

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Follow up: Dr. Alexander H. Sheppe (48 hours later)
thank you so much I will get to that just as soon as I can with one more question. are these situations better to walk away from?
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Answered by Dr. Alexander H. Sheppe (1 hour later)
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I very much forward to starting private therapy with you on this website. I do not think walking away from this situation will solve your problem. You need to talk more about it, discuss you concerns, and get some advice from a professional. The goal should be to solve the problem, not avoid it. And we can do that together!

My link is here:
XXXX
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Suggest Ways To Overcome Problems In Relationship With Partner

Brief Answer: Consultation Detailed Answer: Hello, and thank you for your question. I am certainly a real doctor. My name is Dr. Alexander Sheppe, and I am an XXXXXXX doctor working in New York City at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital, ranked #1 for Psychiatry in the United States. You are welcome to Google this information to verify it. It sounds like you are having a lot of relationship trouble with your boyfriend. You have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a very real and very difficult illness to deal with -- but it sounds like your partner often uses this diagnosis against you, and you feel like your side of the story is not being heard. You have hit your partner, which is illegal, and you want help understanding why you have done this, and how to contain your temper, as well as understanding how to communicate with your partner better. Fortunately, I do offer private therapy on this site. I'd like you to contact me at the following link: tinyurl.com/DrSheppeAnswers I want you to fill out a complete medical history so I can better understand your diagnosis of bipolar disorder. We can discuss your diagnosis and treatment, as well as how to deal with your partner, whom you feel does not treat you fairly. These are difficult subjects, but with information and professional therapy things can get better for you. To touch on a couple subjects directly related to your post thus far -- it sounds like therapy will be essential for you in order to improve your relationship. Possibly even couples' therapy. And as much as you may not like it, medicine is very helpful in controlling some of the unwanted effects of bipolar disorder, which can include impulsive acts like hitting other people. So I think a combination of medicine and therapy will help you, and I will be happy to talk more about it at my private link. Again I am Dr. Sheppe. Please reach out to me at the link below for a personalized comprehensive evaluation, treatment recommendations, and individual therapy: XXXX