Question: My husband has turned into a Dr XXXX. We can be having a perfectly normal conversation, then it is like a switch goes off and he jumps up ranting and raving and calling me the most foul obscene names and making accusations. This is my second marriage, his third. Both his previous wives slept around on him, and his Mother had an affair of which he is the result, and she denies. But other relatives have confirmed to him and even told him who his real father is. His Dad was also having LOTS of affairs on his Mom. Growing up he was taken to the Dentist and his teeth butchered so his Mom and the Dentist could go in the other room and make happy. Then they would have to come back 2 days later because Oh...Gosh, the dentist got the wrong tooth!! Dr appointments were the same way. So he doesn't trust Drs and Dentists and will not go to them. He is always comparing me to his other wives. But the difference is night and day. I am straight laced, don't drink, no drugs, etc. They on the other hand were not. His second wife he was able to divorce because she was taken to prison for drugs finally. My friends have told me he is a Narcissist. And in looking it up, I agree. When we got married, he moved me far out of town away from everyone, made me quit my job and give up my friends I had back then. I still had contact with my family, so he moved us out of state near his parents. His Dad got cancer while we lived there, and I helped in his final months/days. We helped move his Mom back down here where the family is. We were in an auto accident while living there and I am now disabled, 10 years now. He thinks I should be "over it by now". We moved back down home here 3 years ago where there is better medical. He is mad and jealous that we are back closer to my family. He and his family never got along like families do. Since being back, he does odd things like leaving the garage door part way up and running into it, knocking himself out cold. Always when I'm not home, I'm at a Dr appt. He won't tell me maybe for weeks or months. He will leave the tractor bucket part way down and do the same. Sometimes 3 or 4 times in one day. My Mom asked if he has a secret death wish. After all these knocks to the head he now has bad pain in his neck and shoulders and back. He says it feels like his upper body sometimes disconnects from his lower body and he almost has to move 'just right' to set it back on top in place. His back, shoulders, neck and head bones are always popping just moving normally. He will jerk suddenly from the pain of it. He jumps out of bed at night in agonizing pain with leg cramps. His behavior has us on the verge of divorce. I love my husband. I hate to see him going through all of this. I don't want to see him going through this alone. And he has a 34 year old handicapped Son we take care of 24/7. That is just a lot on him with all he has with the pain, etc. he's in. (Course if you knew all my issues you would be wondering why I am so concerned, but as I say, I DO really love my husband, he's just pushed things so far, and the abuse due to all this is more than I can take any more.) What would cause this? The hits to the head? Would that have done something in there? I would appreciate your advice on this. Does it sound like (some friends have said) bi-polar or schitzophrenia?

Thank you. I have been living with this for so long, and it is getting worse. I looked the name of this up on google to get more information, and it says a person with this would not get mean or destructive. But this last weekend he was throwing things around and slamming things around when he flipped into the other person. He was cussing and swearing worse than a sailor, and calling me the most vulgar of things. And talking to me as if he was speaking to his ex wife, his deceased wife, and his Mother. So he's really flipping around. He took his meal on the plate with him and dropped it all over the ground outside my window down below the driveway, and his plate. That was 2 days ago and it is still laying out there. Due to my medical conditions and the fact that our gate is locked and we don't get company (he told everyone they MUST call first), he told me to be comfortable and wear my gowns instead of getting full dressed, as he knows it affects my stomach issues, etc. Today he came and told me to either get dressed or cover up my computer, people can see me, they are recording me sitting here through my camera and screen. I told him the camera isn't on, the light would be on. I have a camera with alert. He looked me up and down like I was some kind of street woman made this awful hmmpfftt sound and walked off, went downstairs and slammed the door. Would not come eat dinner with us. Later he came up, had 3 bites of dinner, came and stood in front of me, I said Yes Dear? he gave me the look over three times, made that disgusting noise again, and stormed off outside slamming the door as he went. I can't keep doing this. I have my medical issues I am dealing with, and I'm not supposed to be under stress, which he knows. I take care of the house, and everything/one in it. I take care of his 34 y.o. handicapped son, many days he even forgets to change him!! I can't be responsible any longer. I can only be responsible for me.