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Question: feeling deprssed.What should I do ?
Brief Answer:
Don't stay alone.
Detailed Answer:
HI XXXXXXX
Greetings from Dr.Divakara.P
Thanks for posting your query.
Is there any reason why you are feeling depressed?
Since when you are feeling depressed?
First thing you need to do is don't stay alone. Call your best friend or parents or sister and spend time with them . If they are really close ( even if they are not ) express your feelings to them . If you feel to cry , don't hesitate to cry in front of them .
If being with them in person will take time at least call them and talk with them on phone . But till you meet any of your friend or family in person don't be inside a room or home. Go out , to a temple, movie or park or moll.
You can listen to your favorite music ( not soft music or romantic music ) . If you can play a game alone or with someone then do it .
Hope this information was useful to you.
Feel free to ask anything.
Don't stay alone.
Detailed Answer:
HI XXXXXXX
Greetings from Dr.Divakara.P
Thanks for posting your query.
Is there any reason why you are feeling depressed?
Since when you are feeling depressed?
First thing you need to do is don't stay alone. Call your best friend or parents or sister and spend time with them . If they are really close ( even if they are not ) express your feelings to them . If you feel to cry , don't hesitate to cry in front of them .
If being with them in person will take time at least call them and talk with them on phone . But till you meet any of your friend or family in person don't be inside a room or home. Go out , to a temple, movie or park or moll.
You can listen to your favorite music ( not soft music or romantic music ) . If you can play a game alone or with someone then do it .
Hope this information was useful to you.
Feel free to ask anything.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I got married recently to the person i have known for almost 8 years. It was love marriage.
But after marriage,there is no love left. I feel i am not able to keep up with the high expectations my husband has.He helps in every houshold chore but then he makes me feel how incomepetent I am that i cant do anything properly and I m unable to take care of him. Everytime there is some or other issue on similar lines.
He suddenly has changed. No matter how much i work,there is no appreciation but critisim at every possible chance. I have tried talking to him, but he is unable to understand anything and he feels he is not doing anything wrong.
I cant talk to my parents because they grew anxious and i dont think they can handle or understand the issue.
I am not sure what to do.
I get these anger fits where I start throwing things. I grew angry at every small thing and not able to handle this. I like to be alone and there is nothing that interests me anymore.
I have myself tried not be alone or lock any doors because I sometime get this feeling of killing myself but I am doing my best to fight it.
But after marriage,there is no love left. I feel i am not able to keep up with the high expectations my husband has.He helps in every houshold chore but then he makes me feel how incomepetent I am that i cant do anything properly and I m unable to take care of him. Everytime there is some or other issue on similar lines.
He suddenly has changed. No matter how much i work,there is no appreciation but critisim at every possible chance. I have tried talking to him, but he is unable to understand anything and he feels he is not doing anything wrong.
I cant talk to my parents because they grew anxious and i dont think they can handle or understand the issue.
I am not sure what to do.
I get these anger fits where I start throwing things. I grew angry at every small thing and not able to handle this. I like to be alone and there is nothing that interests me anymore.
I have myself tried not be alone or lock any doors because I sometime get this feeling of killing myself but I am doing my best to fight it.
Brief Answer:
You need to talk to him more.
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXX
I went through your query and I can understand your feelings. But why has he changed ? Have you ever tried to think about it or talked about it? There will always be a reason for his behavior. Love doesn't die in 8 years. There must be something that is bothering him .That needs to be found.
Men are very egoistic , they don't like to discuss their problems with others especially with their wife. He might be having some tension in his profession or finance or in his family. He may feel inferior of himself to discuss this with you and hence suppressing it .But being unable to cope up with stress he is taking it out on you like this.
I am not telling this is the cause of his behaviour but you need to find out. He might have not liked you talking or chatting with someone whom you consider as a friend or brother. Or someone might have spoken wrongly about you.
The only way to know these is to talk with your husband. Talk to him when he is free and calm, not when he is leaving for office or has just come from office.
Be nice to him , think that you are making a new start. Start off with a usual non specific conversation. Make him a good dinner or go out for dinner. Talk about how you two were loving each other before marriage. Recollect all the sweet moments you both had together. Then slowly ask him what has changed in you and what needs to be done. I am sure he will let you know. Don't be demanding or don't keep complaining.
Just let him know that you had a wonderful 8 years of life and you need to have that life for the rest of your life.
You love him and only he can give you the happiness to you. Try this, if possible today itself and let me know how it works.
Regards.
You need to talk to him more.
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXX
I went through your query and I can understand your feelings. But why has he changed ? Have you ever tried to think about it or talked about it? There will always be a reason for his behavior. Love doesn't die in 8 years. There must be something that is bothering him .That needs to be found.
Men are very egoistic , they don't like to discuss their problems with others especially with their wife. He might be having some tension in his profession or finance or in his family. He may feel inferior of himself to discuss this with you and hence suppressing it .But being unable to cope up with stress he is taking it out on you like this.
I am not telling this is the cause of his behaviour but you need to find out. He might have not liked you talking or chatting with someone whom you consider as a friend or brother. Or someone might have spoken wrongly about you.
The only way to know these is to talk with your husband. Talk to him when he is free and calm, not when he is leaving for office or has just come from office.
Be nice to him , think that you are making a new start. Start off with a usual non specific conversation. Make him a good dinner or go out for dinner. Talk about how you two were loving each other before marriage. Recollect all the sweet moments you both had together. Then slowly ask him what has changed in you and what needs to be done. I am sure he will let you know. Don't be demanding or don't keep complaining.
Just let him know that you had a wonderful 8 years of life and you need to have that life for the rest of your life.
You love him and only he can give you the happiness to you. Try this, if possible today itself and let me know how it works.
Regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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