How To Deal With Stranger Anxiety In An Infant?
I am afraid if she will panic when her pre school starts. Please advise on how best to handle this and reduce the stranger anxiety. I would like to see her enjoy herself like other children. Does this have anything to do with hereditary traits?
Do not worry
Detailed Answer:
Hi
I completely understand your concerns but do not worry. Stranger anxiety is commonly seen in this age group and most kids outgrow it by their third birthday. You may take the following measures to help her out:
1. Stick around your kid before leaving her with a caregiver. This will make her feel more secure and avoid anxieties when you leave her.
2. Explain her condition to the visitors coming to your house. Give her some time to warm up and become comfortable with them. Explain them not to rush in to pick her up and demand kisses and hugs. Instead, tell them to play it cool for a bit, and then maybe, after your toddler seems comfortable, offer her a favorite toy to entice her to connect with them.
3. Stay within arm’s reach. When toddler stranger anxiety sets in, it’s key to make it clear to your child that she’s “safe” by holding her or staying close to her. And be sure to give her lots of love and affection as she gets acclimated (or re-acclimated) to the new (or familiar) face.
4. If she is not comfortable in crowded areas then sensitise her gradually. Explain her the idea of going to a new place and exploring the things.
5. If you feel that she is not improving in the next 6 months and seems to be preoccupied with limited activities/people then visiting a child psychiatrist to rule out autistic spectrum disorders is needed. These disorders do have hereditary associations.
Hopefully she will improve as most of the other kids and will outgrow her anxieties.
Take care
It takes time but will definitely improve
Detailed Answer:
Hi
Don't worry. Most kids improve in their third year of life. Follow the measures which I suggested with lots of good communication and play time with her to help her get rid of anxieties. Many kids do improve one's they start with playschool. But the exposure should be gradual and with lots of good communication. You and your spouse can accompany her for the first few days.