Brief Answer: Psychological state is important, to work on Detailed Answer: Hi and thanks for the query, I do understand how disturbing and frustrating this can be. I am afraid sexual intercourse quality and satisfaction, as you might have rightly noticed unfortunately, is the matter of the mind. the psychological component is the most important ingredient of one's sexual life. I would necessary in my humble opinion, to be XXXXXXX with her,sit her and talk out things with her. I am afraid if things are not sorted out, for you to regain confidence in her, the sexual life between you and her could persistently not be very enjoyable. In case you got trusted friend, or a friend of hers, that has a good relationship between you and her, she could be of great help. Only a healthy relationship, a good state of mind can give a lasting solution to this problem. Drugs like Viagra and all excitants could give only temporary relief. Coupled with the side effects, in my opinion, it is not the best thing to rush to at this point in time. the opinion of a sexologist or a psychologist could be of great help. Trust building in her, I do believe is the main gateway to a health sexual life. Thanks and kind regards. Please, do feel free asking follow up questions in case you need specific issues to be addressed. i shall be glad making my humble contribution. Kind regards. Dr Bain

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