Question: I went to a strip club last evening and got a lap dance. During the dance I kissed and sucked her breasts for about 2-3 minutes off and and on. I also kissed and licked (once) the skin around her breasts. Her breasts were dry and there was no discharge of any fluids. I do not have any abrasions or cuts in my mouth. I slightly burned my tongue a number of days previous to this encounter. I know this was a stupid thing to do. I just got caught up in the moment. I am really concerned about contracting an std/hiv. Am I as risk?

Thank you for the quick response to my inquiry. I am breathing much easier now. I have a secondary question concerning the same lap dance. After the encounter I noticed a small wet spot on my jeans. The spot lined up closely with the position of my penis. I had uriniated just before the dance, so I assume it was a combination of some urine and some semen (I did not ejaculate). It must have soaked through during the event. I'm 95% sure this came from me. But if it came from the girl does that put me at risk? Could there be any possibility disease through my pants?

Thank you for responding to my questions so expeditiously. I appeeciate the support in this matter. I trust that my previous concerns do not warrant further consideration. I won't be spending any more time with dancing girls. It's just not worth it. I have one more question for you. About 7-8 days ago, I lightly scraped a small area of my hand near the knuckles. I recall there was just a tiny amount of blood present. It did not require a band aid. It healed quickly. By the time I went to the club, I could discern no wound present. The only exception to this is a miniscule (freckle size) black dot near one of my knuckles. I only noticed over the weekend. It is hardly noticable. I cannot tell if it's below or on the skin surface. The dancer did briefly kiss the top/side of my hand near this area during the dance. Is this something I should be concerned about?

Truely sorry to bother you again doctor. I just need a little more clarification from my first question's answer. Hiv risk almost nil confused me slightly. Your detailed response told me that hiv risk is so remote that it is not something I need to entertain further. So statistically, it must be a very very small percentage. Any more information about this would be most helpful to rest my mind. Thank you.

Thank you doctor. I understand your point. I realize that language can be inexact and difficult to articulate in a short forum such as this. I guess I just let my imagination get the best of me. I know now that my fears were making me foolish. I was just really nervous for myself and my wife. I kept replaying the dance and the horrible possibilities over and over in my mind (like the girl's nipple on my burnt tongue/her aggressiveness). I now understand that these fears are irrelevent. I don't need to think about or consider other action on this any longer. I'm going to put this behind me. The guilt however will be with me for a long time. Thank you for you patience and kindness in answering my questions doctor. Best regards.

I am relieved that you suggest the test for mental rather than physical reasons. I believe that I'm losing a little bit of my anxiety every day. I think it will just take a while for my brain and emotions to catch up with the reality of the situation we've discussed. I may wind up getting the test in the near future. But currently I'm inclined to follow your advice and "relax and forget about the incident." It will just take some disipline to control my thoughts and reactions. With such a low risk factor, I believe I can conquer my apprehensions. I just need to listen to what you have said.