Dear Doctor,

I have been married to my husband for 4 years. I never understood why he didn't have much of a sex drive; I thought everybody is different and I just love him for the person he is. A few days ago, however, my husband told me he gets tired of the same partner (only sexually) after like a month. So he is not interested in sex. He does satisfy me sometimes and he loves me. Our marriage has no problems in other areas. The problem is that it really hurts me that my husband doesn't enjoy being with me and he considers it a task to make me happy. He fits me in his schedule to satisfy me once a week. He does not care about sex for himself. I know he is heterosexual, that's not a question. In what way could I help him? He is an exceptionally well-natured person but whenever I try to talk to him about this topic, he gets defensive and mad. He thinks this is normal on his part. I don't doubt that but he just told me this after 4 years. I had no idea that he has absolutely no interest in sex after a month or two. He, of course, wants to be with me and wants to continue to be married to me and so do I. I asked him to get counseling though. He refused it. What do you recommend? Is this really something "normal" and I should accept it? Thank you for your answer in advance.