Rbc's in urine indicates infection, inflammation or injury to urinary tract
. Most likely cause is infection. other causes like stones and very rarely malignancy should be considered. Check if there are any pus cells in urine. Get an ultrasound
of the abdomen.
Since you are developing abscess at multiple sites, check your blood sugar to look for diabetes.
Since you are also having urinary incontinence
most likely cause is infection. consult your urologist