I m a 31 year old male (straight) and I have a soft lump on the outside of my anus. It s not on the anus just right next to it. It causes me no pain, and is about the size of a pea -- and again, very soft. It hasn t gone away in over a year which concerns me. Last year when I got it checked out the doctor told me it was a hemorrhoid. But after using a variety of creams and ointments shouldn t it have gone away by now? Bowel movements are normal too.