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How To Manage Excessive Talking And Controlling Behaviour Of A Parent?
Hi, My mom behaves as if she has gone mad and starts repeatedly talking. Issue is i m in love with a guy who is of different religion and my mom wants me to forget him and get me married asap. I m unable convince her to not to get me married to anyone as my state of mind is not ready for it. To make me say yes she behaves highly uncontrollable, i have discussed with my siblings but they think this will be solved of i get married. I want to know if it is possible to calm her down or anything because i don t want to get married when i m not ready for it and at the same time i don t want my mom to go mad all the time she wants me to say yes to something. This obviously has health effects too. Please suggest and help!!!
Wed, 30 Mar 2016
Hi dear,
I can understand how you might be feeling and can also understand your mom's state of mind in such situation.
Your mom is obviously excessively worried about your relationship with your boyfriend and your future. She might be worried that you might do something that you should not do and she might have to face the consequences regarding society etc.
What I see here is little communication gap between you and your mom. I advise you to sit down and talk with her and make her believe in you that, while getting married is very huge and you need time to get ready for it, you will not do anything stupid. Make her trust you that you shall always seek her advise before taking any big step and will always be her daughter first.
You might take help of your father, some of your maternal relative, your sibling, some family friend or anyone who can understand you and her both and whom your mom trusts.
In severe case, you might take help of some professional family counselor but i do not think you will need that.
Moreover, I advise you to re-think your relationship and future with your boyfriend. Life is too long and many real problems you actually face come after actually getting married.
I hope this helps. I wish you strength and composure to handle the situation with love and maturity. Thank you for choosing us to help you.
Best,
Dr. Viraj Shah
I can understand how you might be feeling and can also understand your mom's state of mind in such situation.
Your mom is obviously excessively worried about your relationship with your boyfriend and your future. She might be worried that you might do something that you should not do and she might have to face the consequences regarding society etc.
What I see here is little communication gap between you and your mom. I advise you to sit down and talk with her and make her believe in you that, while getting married is very huge and you need time to get ready for it, you will not do anything stupid. Make her trust you that you shall always seek her advise before taking any big step and will always be her daughter first.
You might take help of your father, some of your maternal relative, your sibling, some family friend or anyone who can understand you and her both and whom your mom trusts.
In severe case, you might take help of some professional family counselor but i do not think you will need that.
Moreover, I advise you to re-think your relationship and future with your boyfriend. Life is too long and many real problems you actually face come after actually getting married.
I hope this helps. I wish you strength and composure to handle the situation with love and maturity. Thank you for choosing us to help you.
Best,
Dr. Viraj Shah
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