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How To Control Insecured Feelings?

i bring up the past so much with my boyfriend how do i stop ? it literally makes him want to leave me i bring up stuff hes done with girls or movies hes watched and i cry everytime saying how could you do that with her (when i didnt even know him when it happened) im so insecure and feel crazy please help me.
Tue, 6 May 2014
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We understand your concerns

I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. You are talking too much because of your attachment to your boy friend. That shows your obsession towards him. Obsession is never good, whereas love and affection is always secure. You must understand that he is still your boy friend and not your life partner or a friend in need. A friend in need never acts like he does with you now. He makes you feel comfortable. You feel you belong to this friend.

But the opposite happens. Means, your assumption about your boy friend is false. Understand that this person is not your "friend in need" and not a life partner. Such an understanding reduces the obsession part and you shall stop the "talking".

For more psychotherapy techniques, You can post a direct question to me in this website. Include every detail as much as you can. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques to control your condition. I am sure that the techniques should be a success.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
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How To Control Insecured Feelings?

Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. You are talking too much because of your attachment to your boy friend. That shows your obsession towards him. Obsession is never good, whereas love and affection is always secure. You must understand that he is still your boy friend and not your life partner or a friend in need. A friend in need never acts like he does with you now. He makes you feel comfortable. You feel you belong to this friend. But the opposite happens. Means, your assumption about your boy friend is false. Understand that this person is not your friend in need and not a life partner. Such an understanding reduces the obsession part and you shall stop the talking . For more psychotherapy techniques, You can post a direct question to me in this website. Include every detail as much as you can. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques to control your condition. I am sure that the techniques should be a success. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.