Dear Marty, Hello and Welcome to ‘Ask A Doctor’ service. I have reviewed your query and here is my advice. The treatment of shy bladder is often accomplished with use of medications and psychotherapy. As you might be aware no two patients are similar and often complete assessment is required before starting the treatment. I understand that you are unable to pay (and I am not charging) so in that case there are self help websites which can help you. In case there is little possibility to pay please see a psychologist in your city as they will guide you to control your irrational thoughts. Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further.