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I can understand your concern and try to help you.
First of all, try to assure your husband that he if fine and this problem is controllable .You have to work as a team to help him achieve ejaculatory control.I suggest , take a bath together, soap and dry each other, enjoy the feeling of being naked and together. Keep your mobile phones/landline phones off, door bolted from inside , there should be comfortable level of lighting so that you can see each other's naked body.
You can massage
each other's body with a lotion of your choice 1-2 times in a week. In the while, do focus on the pleasure you are getting and do not think of penetrative sex.
When he becomes comfortable with your naked body, try sex in female superior position, with gradual strokes. When he has a urge to ejaculate,stop thrusting and let him loose his desire to ejaculate. Repeat this as many times as possible .this way, he will learn his time to ejaculate but remember, this is a learning method and may take some time.
He can also do pelvic floor muscle exercises
called Kegel's exercises. this will strengthen pelvic floor muscles which control the ejaculation. Here one has to tighten his perineal muscles, hold for 20 seconds and release. This should be repeated as many times as possible
regarding the medicines, I prefer to give dapoxetine
30 mg 6 hours before sex .
Hope this will be helpful. Any further query is welcome. Actually full learning of this technique requires a number of in person sessions
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA