Question: I am a 48 year old woman with some chronic health issues. In the past couple years, I've also gained weight, which has been tough. I am happily married for 2 years, on our honeymoon, I learned my husband took a pill as he felt the sexual experience could be better for him, he was less attracted to me. While that is devastating, I know he's worked on it as have I.
The problem is, since our honeymoon, I can not achieve orgasm. There is not a loss of interest, lubrication, I just can't get to that level when u know you're on the way.
It was a rough year. He is bipolar and an alcoholic. I've only known him sober until last year. He's a nasty drunk and other addictions come out. Gambling and risky, paid sex. I looked at his computer one day,ms aw that on his last trip (work) he'd searched escorts. I kicked him out.
(This really does have a point, I promise!!) after about a year, I said get help or get out. He didn't actually meet up with any women and he is a wonderful, loving,mountain man sober who I love very much much. We went to some couples therapy and I know he's done some work around feeling attracted to me while I battle the weight.
In other words, I don't believe is psychological. I was taking ultram daily and looked up side effects. No orgasm!! Took a while, I weaned off. It's also hard because of my illness he won't initiate sex, not wanting to pressure. I use seroquil for sleep and looked that up but reviews seems much less.
Bottom line: we have worked through a difficult and tumultuous year. I'm not unsure about him, I'm very much attracted to him. Sex is already rare because he travels and my illness can b a freight train. Could other meds cause this? I know one can point to a lack or trust, but I don't feel that's relevant. My body responds but it's like there a line I just don't make it past,

Sorry this is long!!!!