Brief Answer:
PDE inhibitor group of medicnes can help

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for writing to us.

I can understand your concern.


Understand some facts:

For good erection constant exciting erotic feelings must be present in mind.If your mind is diverted to something else apart from sex, erection is going to lose.
Sex is not only physical attachment, it requires emotional bonding also when you do sex with your partner regularly.
As you are not much interested in your wife there is lack of romantic and exciting feelings likely.
This lack of intimacy is the main reason behind your problem.

In this case if you want to satisfy your wife with erection medicines can help.
5- PDE inhibitor group of medicines like sildenafil or tadalafil will help. One of them should be used 2 hours prior to sex.They cause erection easily with slight stimulation.
They causes headache,stuffy nose nausea and gastric discomfort like common side effects.
Proper physical check up of cardiac system should be done by a doctor before starting the same as well as to avoid side effects.These are prescription medicines and you need to consult
doctor/psychiatrist /sexologist for the prescription.

Hope I have answered your query, I will be happy to help further.

Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.

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Brief Answer:
No medicine but some counseling can divert your mind to your wife

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for follow up.

First of all there is need to check that you are bisexual or XXXXXXX In XXXXXXX person erection occurs only with stimulation from males while in bisexual from males and females both.
If you are confirmed bisexual sex counseling can help to involve you with your wife in better manner. This counseling part depends on your wife is aware or not about your sexuality.If she is aware couple counseling can almost treat your problem.
If your wife is not aware then treatment is somewhat difficult and you need to put more efforts.
Foreplay is the most important part of sex. You need to spend enough time in that. You should find characteristics of your wife which are really caring and loving for you.You need to spend more romantic time apart from sex with her. By that way intimacy between you can be increased.

For sildenafil to work sexual stimulation is must. If you are not at all aroused by your wife then it will not work.100 mg dose is recommended or tadalafil 40 mg dose is recommended.

You can get erection through oral sex as you mentioned.To lengthen this erection with sildenafil , clomipramine or paroxetine like drug should be added which can delay the ejaculation and you can shift from oral sex to coitus successfully. During this transition you should enjoy without apprehension of losing erection and you can imagine some handsome male in your mind if you find the same helpful. Your wife can not know the same. In this way you can satisfy your wife as well as yourself.

Hope this answer is helpful. Feel free to discuss further.

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