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Question: It seems I am suffering from sexual disorder of being an addict. I used to masturbate a lot before marriage and therefore was pure virgin before marriage. I got married 11 years back to a beautiful and intelligent girl. It went off all well but we both being virgin didnt have experience of sex and probably never enjoyed it fullest specially because of my erection issue and secondly, while doing sex I generally get distracted and not able to enjoy it to fullest.
Most of the times, I get my penis erected by hand then used to insert leading to less pleasure for both. But still we used to have good time with whatever little we used to have.
However, my wife who is beautiful as well as well built co-operative during sex, was diagnosed with some disease of white spot on vagina leading to pain while doing sex. However she started treatment but I love her so much that in order for not troubling her with pain I gradually reduced my sexual activities with her and also we blessed with twins kept us busy in last 5 years.
But as I am too much addicted with sex and need every alternate day, I created a very strange habit. As I love my wife I decided not to go out and have sex with other women. I purposely committed to one woman pre or post marriage, I developed strange habit of masturbation where I used call me some of known females, used to chat with them and finally get horney and masturbate for fulfillment of sexual desires. I love my wife so much that gradually we used to have sex once in month but her disease led me not to trouble her with it.
But the strange habit of having phone sex only with known women entities has worsened in these few months and not able to give up. This is leading me to enjoy the phone sex more than doing it physically with my wife in future when she is treated with her problem?
PLEASE HELP WITH THIS STRANGE SEX ADDICTION DOCTOR SO THAT I CAN COME BACK TO MY NORMAL LIFE AND STAY COMMITTED TO WIFE WHICH I AM?
Most of the times, I get my penis erected by hand then used to insert leading to less pleasure for both. But still we used to have good time with whatever little we used to have.
However, my wife who is beautiful as well as well built co-operative during sex, was diagnosed with some disease of white spot on vagina leading to pain while doing sex. However she started treatment but I love her so much that in order for not troubling her with pain I gradually reduced my sexual activities with her and also we blessed with twins kept us busy in last 5 years.
But as I am too much addicted with sex and need every alternate day, I created a very strange habit. As I love my wife I decided not to go out and have sex with other women. I purposely committed to one woman pre or post marriage, I developed strange habit of masturbation where I used call me some of known females, used to chat with them and finally get horney and masturbate for fulfillment of sexual desires. I love my wife so much that gradually we used to have sex once in month but her disease led me not to trouble her with it.
But the strange habit of having phone sex only with known women entities has worsened in these few months and not able to give up. This is leading me to enjoy the phone sex more than doing it physically with my wife in future when she is treated with her problem?
PLEASE HELP WITH THIS STRANGE SEX ADDICTION DOCTOR SO THAT I CAN COME BACK TO MY NORMAL LIFE AND STAY COMMITTED TO WIFE WHICH I AM?
Brief Answer:
Do not worry about masturbation.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for your query,
It is important to know that self stimulation (masturbation) in absence of availability of sex is considered normal, irrespective of being premarital or post marital. So do not have any guilt regarding masturbation. Masturbate also do not cause any medical or sexual complication.
But it is better to avoid communication with other females to get aroused for masturbation to prevent social complication. Same time get your wife treated so you can have natural sex.
For mild erection problem no treatment is needed as you are able to to have sex. Daily jogging for 30 minutes, avoiding alcohol/smoking (if present) and multivitamins daily will help in improving erection. If problem persist then you will need in person evaluation by doctor and investigations to find out cause of erection dysfunction.
Take care
Do not worry about masturbation.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for your query,
It is important to know that self stimulation (masturbation) in absence of availability of sex is considered normal, irrespective of being premarital or post marital. So do not have any guilt regarding masturbation. Masturbate also do not cause any medical or sexual complication.
But it is better to avoid communication with other females to get aroused for masturbation to prevent social complication. Same time get your wife treated so you can have natural sex.
For mild erection problem no treatment is needed as you are able to to have sex. Daily jogging for 30 minutes, avoiding alcohol/smoking (if present) and multivitamins daily will help in improving erection. If problem persist then you will need in person evaluation by doctor and investigations to find out cause of erection dysfunction.
Take care
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