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Question: Dr Mittal....I am Shobhit XXXXXXX I have a girl friend and we are together for almost 9 months....I have a sexual problem to discuss....first time we went on trip to nainital but on a condition that I will not fuck her in that....there we masterbated for each other.....then afterward she used to do oral sex to me in car while I am driving....then we again went on trip....there I tried to have sex with her in bathroom....I tried to enter in her from back....but owing to her small height I had problem in entering her....I quit then...but this lowered my confidence and I could not take initiative from my side then....seeing me sad she herself entered mine in her the next day....but I ejaculated earlier in her.........since then I am unable to take initiative.....I lose concentration faster....she says I get distracted faster and lose the urge and wildness early which I myself have felt........truthfully I want to confess which I confessed to her tooo that I have been masterbating a lot. Before her also and after meeting her and being with her I am doing a lot too....I do phone sex with her... In car she does for me and myself also I do a lot.....I have been obsessed with masterbation....sometimes I feel this is creating problem that I drained all my desire.. Energy everything in masterbation......please help me in this...I want to be aggressive on her... I want to satisfy her fully.....I don't want to ruin my relationship.......
Brief Answer:
Wanting to become aggressive is not a solution
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXX,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I read your query word by word and understand your concern. Masturbation is completely normal phenomenon and it does not result in any complication if there is no excessive use or misuse.
If you have developed any problem than there might be another reason which can be dealt effectively.
Premature ejaculation can be due to multiple factors and in your case it seems to be more of psychological problem than a organic problem. Psychological means there is no abnormality in the system but the excessive anxiety or performance anxiety makes the sexual intercourse not a joyful activity but a stressful event that making things worse.
Before we proceed further I have few questions for you
1 Do you have any sexual experience in before nainital trip?
2. If yes what was the result of intercourse- how long you lasted?
3. What is the frequency of masturbation per week?
4. How long a single erection last for you- even when you masturbate or not?
5. Are you receiving any medication? If any please reason the prescription with doses and duration?
6. Do you have any medical illness. If any describe in details.
Please note that sexual satisfaction is not about aggression. It is mutual pleasure with your partner with mutual respect. What you need to focus is on activity rather than time and other things. Always use ample of time for the foreplay often significant part of sexual relationship. For time being use use perfroma durex condom, which will delay the ejaculation.
Thanks and regards
Dr Ashok
Wanting to become aggressive is not a solution
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXX,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I read your query word by word and understand your concern. Masturbation is completely normal phenomenon and it does not result in any complication if there is no excessive use or misuse.
If you have developed any problem than there might be another reason which can be dealt effectively.
Premature ejaculation can be due to multiple factors and in your case it seems to be more of psychological problem than a organic problem. Psychological means there is no abnormality in the system but the excessive anxiety or performance anxiety makes the sexual intercourse not a joyful activity but a stressful event that making things worse.
Before we proceed further I have few questions for you
1 Do you have any sexual experience in before nainital trip?
2. If yes what was the result of intercourse- how long you lasted?
3. What is the frequency of masturbation per week?
4. How long a single erection last for you- even when you masturbate or not?
5. Are you receiving any medication? If any please reason the prescription with doses and duration?
6. Do you have any medical illness. If any describe in details.
Please note that sexual satisfaction is not about aggression. It is mutual pleasure with your partner with mutual respect. What you need to focus is on activity rather than time and other things. Always use ample of time for the foreplay often significant part of sexual relationship. For time being use use perfroma durex condom, which will delay the ejaculation.
Thanks and regards
Dr Ashok
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Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
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