Suggest treatment for depression, anxiety and stress after a medical abortion

Posted on Mon, 15 Jun 2015 in General Health
Question: Hi XXXXXXX
Myself XXXXXXX 10th of April I received your advice to go for medicinal abortion. Thank you for your guidance and I got the same done.
The person whom i was supposed to get married has showed me his true nature. He is behind money and that is the reason he proposed me and talked about marriage. The Day we went for doctor consultation, he dint even have money to pay, finally i had to pay it myself and get it done. After a week i lost my dad and no one knows about my case till now. I am in deep mental stress from last two months. Now family is looking for another guy, while i have also said OK for marriage but i am really worried about my case. Will i be in trouble in my new married life, if the boy or his parents gets to know; it will be a real bad time to me and my family. the only solution which i can see before me is losing my life. Please tell me how to solve this.
Answered by Dr. Deepti Verma 3 hours later
Brief Answer:
consult a psychiatrist ,be hopeful, life is beautiful

Detailed Answer:
I have read your medical and personal problems and as a female I can understand your situation and condition. I am giving you this advice not as a doctor but as a friend. You have suffered great loss in short time. Life goes on. Don't think what has happened now think about your mother and other close family members. Just keep walking your bad times Will pass away.
As you have decided to enter in a new relationship this marriage will help you tide over your situation.
As a doctor few things I want to make clear. There is no way a person can check if you have lost your virginity. secondly it is difficult even for a doctor to detect if you have done medical abortion previously.
Now last part as a friend, marriage is a big thing in one's life and people say nothing should be concealed between the partners but practically nothing is absolute. everyone has something to conceal. It's not important to tell everything but it's important to love your partner faithfully in your life ahead and give all happiness in your relationship.
In last i will advise you to consult a psychiatrist who can help YOU to come out of this situation in a good way. It may not require multiple visits neither many drugs so be open to visit the doctor.
Don't consider it a social stigma. everyone gets stress in life and sometimes difficult to handle by herself then one need a friend a near one or a psychiatrist.
Hoping for your happy married life ahead.
Your friend
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj
Follow up: Dr. Deepti Verma 7 hours later
Thank you so much for your advice. Yes i will take care of my new life with all that is required. My only worry was in future if the doctor says about my earlier days and another major worry is the astrologers also find out about the number of kids a girl will have etc. So that is even more head scratching. As a friend you really helped me come out of situation partially. Was not knowing what to do, have started feeling guilty for my presence every where.
Answered by Dr. Deepti Verma 15 minutes later
Brief Answer:
Be positive ,dont be guilty, consult a psychiatrist

Detailed Answer:
Good to hear positive attitude from you. Be assured if you don't reveal no doctor will come to know about your previous abortion as there is no operative marks. The other concern regarding astrologer, it depends upon your amount of belief. I personally don't believe in it and it's just a guess about the number of kids. Even if he says your fortune tells that you will be having 2 kids then conceive twice. Nothing to worry. I want you to come out of your situation completely not partially so that you can enjoy your married life and give full attention. Again I will recommend you to consult a psychiatrist for better and early recovery.
Many incidents occurs in one's life it's up to you how you take and handle such situation. people have similar or serious issues also but life goes on.
Everyday is a new day and every sunrise is a new opportunity.
Forget the past, march the present and build the future.
Praying God for your happiness.
You can always consult me as a friend.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D
Follow up: Dr. Deepti Verma 43 minutes later
Ok thank you. I will be fine with your piece of advice. Visiting another doc will upset me again.
I am happy today and will try to be forever. Any more advice i will contact you.
Proud to have met you, i personally wish you best times ever.
Answered by Dr. Deepti Verma 4 hours later
Brief Answer:
Have a great life ahead

Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX its really nice to hear positive words from you.Thanks for your wishes.
Be happy and get back to me whenever needed.
Wishing you a great life ahead.
Dr Deepti Verma
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad
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