Hello, I would be happy to help.
It is quite possible that this is a reaction to the removal cream. This would be my first impression given the limited information that you have provided. On the other hand, herpes
is easy to diagnose just by looking at it, so I would definitely wait for the results before any further sexual contact.
It is possible for either partner to be a carrier and not know it! At some point, in these cases, the other partner eventually gets infected. Your questions about who has what should await the results of the culture.
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