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I Have Had A Problem With Having A Hard Time With Crying, Kindly Suggest
My question is quite simple, I am 54 years old, for the longest I can remember I have had a problem with having a hard time with crying. I don t consider myself a wimp, I served over 20 years in the Army, my mother passed when I was 11 and I was responsible for the majority of my growing up, my dad was military, I ve served in combat twice and was the only person who would make the call when my father was terminal in the hospital to remove him from life support. To each of these things I ve dealt with with minimal problems. However in many of the personal situations I ve found myself in I had a hard time holding back tears , same as in a emotional movie, or a situation you may find on tv where a person (etc... kidnapped and recovered, saved from sure death) would cause me to cry. I am concerned about what would cause me to cry so easily in some situations and others not respond except in the way expected. Any help would be appreciated.
Sun, 6 Feb 2011
User's Response
Dr. Anshita Singh Rathore,
Homeopath's Response
Homeopath's Response
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There is absolutely nothing wrong in expressing your emotions, weeping . laughing, being a little angry, feeling happy or sad,,,are normal human emotions. Some people are good at hiding them, or keeping them to themselves, which causes distress to themselves , in the long run. It good to be expressive, rather healthy. And since you are 54, you can judge yourself that how much physical or any other kind of trouble this behaviour has caused till now...Has it?
Takecare.
There is absolutely nothing wrong in expressing your emotions, weeping . laughing, being a little angry, feeling happy or sad,,,are normal human emotions. Some people are good at hiding them, or keeping them to themselves, which causes distress to themselves , in the long run. It good to be expressive, rather healthy. And since you are 54, you can judge yourself that how much physical or any other kind of trouble this behaviour has caused till now...Has it?
Takecare.
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Dr. Abhijeet Deshmukh,
MD,
Psychiatrist's Response
MD,
Psychiatrist's Response
Hello.
This might be your opportunity to explore your core beliefs about the events and incidences you find difficult to manage emotionally. After all, it's not the events themselves, but it's the inferences about those events and core beliefs, which cause the emotional consequences such as yours.
I suggest you find a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapist or a Cognitive Behavior Therapist in your area / town. A therapy course will help you with the identifying any unwanted / irrational beliefs, inferences about events or the self. You will also be able to make positive and long term changes in those beliefs. (Irrational belief is one which doesn't help you move towards your goal of being peaceful and happy)
I hope this helps a bit.
Take care
Abhijeet Deshmukh, MD
(P.S. - If you are not in a position to go for therapy, you might come back here or explore any other forums where you can discuss this with a therapist over a period of time)
This might be your opportunity to explore your core beliefs about the events and incidences you find difficult to manage emotionally. After all, it's not the events themselves, but it's the inferences about those events and core beliefs, which cause the emotional consequences such as yours.
I suggest you find a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapist or a Cognitive Behavior Therapist in your area / town. A therapy course will help you with the identifying any unwanted / irrational beliefs, inferences about events or the self. You will also be able to make positive and long term changes in those beliefs. (Irrational belief is one which doesn't help you move towards your goal of being peaceful and happy)
I hope this helps a bit.
Take care
Abhijeet Deshmukh, MD
(P.S. - If you are not in a position to go for therapy, you might come back here or explore any other forums where you can discuss this with a therapist over a period of time)
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