Thank you for asking HCM
I have gone through your query.Your problem is most likely bartholinitis. For such cases i advise warm compress with a hot towel.If no improvement then i give antibiotics like clindamycin
.I also recommend to use intimate wash regularly to normalize vaginal bacterial flora and PH and there by preventing getting further infections.While cleaning your anal area don't go in two and fro,move only towards the anal side backwards so it will decrease chance of getting infections from faeces also.Hope this may help you.
Let me know if you have any further query.