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Question: SIR I am 30 year of old unmarried person.I am a banker.
Since long back i have been facing a number of pshychological problems. I have lack of confidence. Most of the time i am having a doubt on myself. I am thinking strangely like "Have i commited any mistake for which my future life will spoil." I used to masturbate to relax myself when i got tensed. Now my brain all of sudden started doubting " Did anybody made Vedio clip while doing Masturbation? " And i am so much afraid that i cant able to concentrate on my job.I am thinking as if my future , my job everything will spoil because of my unguaranted mistakes".Please help me .How can i convince myself that everything is fine and everything will be fine in my life.I am so much nervous that i am thinking i can't take any responsbilty like getting married , or going to the higher post in my professional carrier.Please tell me how to boost my confidence level.
Since long back i have been facing a number of pshychological problems. I have lack of confidence. Most of the time i am having a doubt on myself. I am thinking strangely like "Have i commited any mistake for which my future life will spoil." I used to masturbate to relax myself when i got tensed. Now my brain all of sudden started doubting " Did anybody made Vedio clip while doing Masturbation? " And i am so much afraid that i cant able to concentrate on my job.I am thinking as if my future , my job everything will spoil because of my unguaranted mistakes".Please help me .How can i convince myself that everything is fine and everything will be fine in my life.I am so much nervous that i am thinking i can't take any responsbilty like getting married , or going to the higher post in my professional carrier.Please tell me how to boost my confidence level.
Brief Answer:
Detail required
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thank you for your query.
I need a few details so that I am better able to help you.
Firstly I would like to ask since when you have such complain?
Is there any other symptoms like suspicious over anybody, any hearing of voice, abnormal behavior, sleep disturbance, irritability, withdrawn behavior etc.
Is there any effect on your personal relation, social relation and work environment?
I have few diagnosis in mind, but to differentiate between them detail history and mental status examination is necessary.
Awaiting your response.
Thank you
Detail required
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thank you for your query.
I need a few details so that I am better able to help you.
Firstly I would like to ask since when you have such complain?
Is there any other symptoms like suspicious over anybody, any hearing of voice, abnormal behavior, sleep disturbance, irritability, withdrawn behavior etc.
Is there any effect on your personal relation, social relation and work environment?
I have few diagnosis in mind, but to differentiate between them detail history and mental status examination is necessary.
Awaiting your response.
Thank you
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
since last 10 years i am facing these problems .But now it become more since 23-09-2014.
I am suspecting as if something i have done at my office for which i ll be sacked.
I feeling guilty, nervous everytime.
It is affecting my life. I dont want to see TV and dont want to talk more.Just want to stay alone and sometime crying thinking about what ll happen to my future.
I want my confidence level back. I want to believe myself.
please save my life.
Everything started from my chilhood from my father's strictness , scolding, crticism till my post graduation. So i start thinking my self as a fool, and loose my confidnce over myself.I was in severe depression due to my father's attitude.I had no friend circle.And till now i am alone for which i am getting tensed of not geeting help from my surrounding.My father is no more. And now my sister's marriage is due.My marriage is due too. I have to take care of my mother too. I am working 2000km away from my home. No blood relatives are helping me .In my office transfer is a dream. So i am getting frostrated day by day. Because of lack of confidence and nervousness i am thinking how can i complete my family responsibilities alone, it is quite difficult , after all these are not a one man army job.
I am very much afaraid of my future and present.Sometimes want to die.
For my frustration now i cant stop masturbating, because when i am in severe tension i am doing it to get relaxed and to have a good sleep. Now i am suspecting over masturbation (as i read some where) has changed my brain chemistry. I am afraid very much.
plz help me.
I am suspecting as if something i have done at my office for which i ll be sacked.
I feeling guilty, nervous everytime.
It is affecting my life. I dont want to see TV and dont want to talk more.Just want to stay alone and sometime crying thinking about what ll happen to my future.
I want my confidence level back. I want to believe myself.
please save my life.
Everything started from my chilhood from my father's strictness , scolding, crticism till my post graduation. So i start thinking my self as a fool, and loose my confidnce over myself.I was in severe depression due to my father's attitude.I had no friend circle.And till now i am alone for which i am getting tensed of not geeting help from my surrounding.My father is no more. And now my sister's marriage is due.My marriage is due too. I have to take care of my mother too. I am working 2000km away from my home. No blood relatives are helping me .In my office transfer is a dream. So i am getting frostrated day by day. Because of lack of confidence and nervousness i am thinking how can i complete my family responsibilities alone, it is quite difficult , after all these are not a one man army job.
I am very much afaraid of my future and present.Sometimes want to die.
For my frustration now i cant stop masturbating, because when i am in severe tension i am doing it to get relaxed and to have a good sleep. Now i am suspecting over masturbation (as i read some where) has changed my brain chemistry. I am afraid very much.
plz help me.
Brief Answer:
Need to consult psychiatrist
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
First of all not to worry about masturbation as it is a normal phenomena and 99 % of male doing it.
It has not any adverse effect over body.
From your history You might be suffering from Major depressive disorder, melancholic type..
Due to that you have excessive guilt and worry regarding future also your self esteem goes down.
Due to such long problem you also develop psychotic features like suspicious over office member that someone has done something to you that's why you are suffering from such problem.
You need to consult local psychiatrist and treatment.
There are many ways to come out from such illness like medication, psychotherapy, ECT (electro convulsive therapy)...
Wish you good health.
Thank you
Need to consult psychiatrist
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
First of all not to worry about masturbation as it is a normal phenomena and 99 % of male doing it.
It has not any adverse effect over body.
From your history You might be suffering from Major depressive disorder, melancholic type..
Due to that you have excessive guilt and worry regarding future also your self esteem goes down.
Due to such long problem you also develop psychotic features like suspicious over office member that someone has done something to you that's why you are suffering from such problem.
You need to consult local psychiatrist and treatment.
There are many ways to come out from such illness like medication, psychotherapy, ECT (electro convulsive therapy)...
Wish you good health.
Thank you
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Yogesh D
sir if the local psychiatrist not able to diagnose me properly and prescribe me wrong medications , is it going to affect my brain.
I mean shall i become mad from it?
I mean shall i become mad from it?
Brief Answer:
Not like that
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Not to worry about wrong diagnosis and medicines.
even if you are diagnosed wrong and treated with wrong medication there are no such major side effects of psychiatric medicines.
If you are not improving with medicines or if any side effects you can contact your doctor any time.
Psychiatric medication will not affect your brain so be relaxed and take treatment.
So consult psychiatrist for treatment.
Thank you
Not like that
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Not to worry about wrong diagnosis and medicines.
even if you are diagnosed wrong and treated with wrong medication there are no such major side effects of psychiatric medicines.
If you are not improving with medicines or if any side effects you can contact your doctor any time.
Psychiatric medication will not affect your brain so be relaxed and take treatment.
So consult psychiatrist for treatment.
Thank you
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Shanthi.E
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