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Having Fear To Mingle With People, Little Inferiority Due To Dark Skin And Poor English. How Do I Improve My Confidence?

Posted on Fri, 6 Sep 2013

Question: I have fear to mingle with people, groups, which is ruining my confident, how to improve my confident, some times I am more lethargic at work which is causing more error in the work, outside i may look like strict, prideful person but inside am calm, fearing for the issues and any problems is there any way to get along with people and increase my confident, I am also having little inferiority due to my black colour, my poor english in work place also my weaknesses

Answered by Dr. Susanta Padhy (17 hours later)

Brief Answer:
there are ways, detailed in answer

Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX

Thanks for the query

These symptoms may suggest therapy should help

I am available for further discussion

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad

Follow up: Dr. Susanta Padhy (49 minutes later)

Thanks for your reply, some times I am more loving and kind to all those around me forgiving in nature, some times when they take more advantages, I am getting more angry and all the good part they have done is gone, I tend to think everything they have done is wrong and Judging them on their negative and start avoiding them.

I am not sure whether its a social disorder or the personality behavior

Here my childhood:
I grew up for less confident mother who raised me in a very nuclear family avoiding all my relatives and friends, abused me in language, physical and emotionally many times for small mistake i did. i felt its better to go away from the house, after my post graduate education my confident raised due to my job and independent to stand

My father was also strict ex-service men who fear for society and live very calm life, but nothing he has done as father until my marriage, he failed in his responsibility that made me family is nothing

but after learning from the spiritual area and seeing many loving family i increased my confident in family life and married recently

Please suggest me which medication suitable for me and my behavior?

Answered by Dr. Susanta Padhy (11 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Initially ssri group of drugs could be helpful

Detailed Answer:
I must thank you for the detailed childhood history

Usually children who are brought up in such environment are likely to have "anxious-avoidant personality" or "social anxiety"

Moreover, you mention that your father had social anxiety. This trait, is partly genetic, too

Usually, practically, difficult to differentiate both the condition

For the initial phase, you can use SSRI group of drugs like fluoxoetine, sertraline etc.

And then subsequently assertiveness training and social skill training should help

Consulting a psychiatrist and discussing all these issues would be ideal

Hope this helps

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vaishalee Punj