Hello Dr. Grief, I have two grandchildren that my daughter and son in law adopted shortly after birth. The children are now 7 and 8 years old. The biological parents were not allowed to keep the children because of their inability to properly care for the children. They had 1 baby that suffocated in their bed and another child that was taken away for failure to thrive. Yesterday my daughter ran into Rose the biological mother and she has since remarried and has a2 year old child and expecting in June. She told my daughter that she still loved Paul and Bella and that she would like to see them and have them meet their half siblings. Paul is 8 and has some special needs, Bella is 7 and very bright. This summer my daughter and son in law will tell them about being adopted. I am totally against Paul and Bella establishing a relationship with the biological mother and siblings. We tried this in the beginning of the adoption and it did not work out very well. Perhaps when they are older but not at this age. I think it will be enough for the children to grasp the fact that they are Adopted without bringing in so much additional information. My daughter and son in law are amazing parents and have provided a beautiful life full of many opportunities for their family. Is there a book or any information that would help with this circumstance. My daughter has a beautiful heart but sometimes that can impact difficult decisions negatively. I would greatly appreciate any information that I could share.