he would burn the house down with me in it, he said he would make my life a living hell, and that he d inlfict as much psychological damage as possible on our 4 children. He didn t burn the house down, but he did accomplish his other goals. The children are all adults now, in their 30s, and totally under his control, all thoroughly damaged, and probably sociopathic as well, and they all hate me because he keeps telling them that I have borderline personality disorder. We were in marriage therapy for 5 years (before I finally left him). A condition of therapy was that we had to submit to individual personality inventories. I got a copy of his report, here s what it said about him, in a nutshell: (the full written report is actually even more shocking and twisted): unintegrated ego structure sadistic predatory lack of guilt emotionally unavailable narcissistic compartmentalized fragmented I was divorced 5 years and then remarried the sweetest man in the world 11 years ago. The irony is that my children dearly love their stepdad, but they still hate me and say I m the crazy one. I was a full time stay at home mom for them, baking cookies together, building tent forts in the living room, the whole 9 yards, and this is my reward for dedicating all my healthy years to them. I now have several autoimmune diseases, any small wonder. I recently had pituitary surgery and none of them even called me on the phone they insist I m a hypochondriac. I struggled for decades to protect them from the damages inlficted by their father, but it was all in vain.