My daughter badly needs psychiatric care but won t go to get it. I suspect her of having BPD. When she is mad at me (often) she calls me horrible names. Then I demand an apology. don t get one, and she says she is going to kill herself. This has been going on for 20 years. She is 45. I don t know what to do. Background: she was sexually molested (not rape, but some touching and lots of mind games) by my father from age 11 to 22. Nobody had any idea. She didn t tell for all that time because she thought it would break the family apart, which it did somewhat. He is long dead. She had some counseling, some hospitalizations for an eating disorder, but unfortunately had some very bad experiences with psychology professionals which is why she won t go for counseling now. I d like her to go for DBT but if I even start to talk about counseling she will go berserk. I m 73 and am at my wits end.