Hi Dr. I have been married for 12 years and have discovered that I become extremely, extremely aroused with the thought of my wife (who is very beautiful by the way) to openly have sex with other men. Sometimes she hints about enjoying someone other than I. I don t know if she is really having an affair or if she just say things this like this to provoke me. she knows this is what I want and I know that she doesn t mind having a lover, but I think she s afraid of possible consequences of actually doing this and letting me know about it; that I may not be able to handle it in reality. She accuses me of being mentally ill and that I should get help. What do you think?