I have incontinence. After sleeping, when I get out of bed in the morning, my urine starts to flow and I cannot control it. I have to wear Depends to bed. In the daytime, I have to wear a pad as when I feel the sensation to go to the bathroom, it starts before I get there. I do not want to have surgery. I have taken oxybutinin before and it did not help. No meds have helped. What can I do?