How do I loosen my tight vagina? I may have vaginismus, secondary? I m 73 yrs. old and would like to start a new sexual relationship, but have abstained for many years, and had 2 children by C-section. Is there help to stretch or open up the vagina after a long abstinence? Am using Replens to line the vaginal walls, but partner cannot penetrate even with exterior lubrication, is there anything I should do or see a gynecologist?