hello kindly note that one should never clean own or others ears.this can be traumatic. This is the work of ENT specialist. You can do one thing consult an ENT specialist for checking that the ear drums are ok. Most probably there are in your case daughter didnt have pain.because ear drum trauma is painful condition.but still there can be wax which needs to be removed which your wife might have pushed inside. In children the ear canal is straight and small so always be very careful.