Substance abuse in a loved one is probably the most difficult psychological situation a person can face. Why? Because one has to deal with the frustration of knowing that only your loved one can take responsibility and clean up their act. Sometimes close family members are forced to reject and kick out their own substance abusing relatives because these people tend to take everybody down with them, much like a sinking ship. Your son needs help desperately, like an inpatient substance abuse facility, but the maneuver can only come from him. All your suggesting and support will be rejected by him, because his reason has temporarily been obscured by the use of substances. Don t give up hope about it, though. Seek out your own therapist in the community and get your own support for this huge issue. This will help you deal with the emotional stress of this troublesome situation and perhaps develop some alternative strategies to help your son. Where there s life, there s hope!