Brief Answer:
As below.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Welcome to Healthcare Magic!

I understand you are alarmed by your son's wetting himself. It can be due to damage to nerves that control urination, since neuropathy is common in people with alcohol problems. On the other hand, it can simply be because he was too drunk to notice that he had a full bladder, which led to his wetting himself. The second possibility seems to me to be more likely as you mention that he has been alcohol related issues for last one year only. Even then, it is a cause of concern as his being so drunk also means that he is vulnerable to have falls and get injured in this state.

You are right in saying that he needs to see a doctor, but even if you could forcibly take him, it would be only partially helpful. You see, just meeting a doctor will not solve his problems. He needs to accept that he has a problem and then only he will be willing to take treatment and make changes.

In my opinion, rather than insisting that he see a doctor, try sitting with him for a chat and tell him calmly that you are very worried about him. He will then no doubt tell you that he is fine and you need not worry. You should then impress upon him that he probably is right but you would still feel very much relieved if a doctor were to see him, examine him, do a complete check-up and then confirm that he was fine. This strategy may or may not work, but what will certainly not work is family members forcing him to accept that he needs help. Quarrels and arguments will also not help either. Approach him when he is in a receptive frame of mind and do not lose your calm. Do not be critical. Try to be as supportive as you can.

I hope this helps you. Please feel free to let me know in case I can help you further.

Best wishes.

Dr Preeti Parakh
MD Psychiatry

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