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Question: I'm very emotional and I feel sad
Brief Answer:
Need details.
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Welcome to HCM.
Dear,
I understand your emotional condition.
But why do you feel sad? What emotional trauma have you experienced which is making you sad?
Please describe your problem in detail.
I am here to help you in all the possible ways.
Waiting for your reply.
Regards.
Dr. Shubham Mehta, MD.
Need details.
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Welcome to HCM.
Dear,
I understand your emotional condition.
But why do you feel sad? What emotional trauma have you experienced which is making you sad?
Please describe your problem in detail.
I am here to help you in all the possible ways.
Waiting for your reply.
Regards.
Dr. Shubham Mehta, MD.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Im a married man with two children amd i have fallen in love with a married women we have been in constant contact for 4 years like everyday we both know where we stand and inly ohysical contact has been holding hands a hug and that is it we both know where we stand and dint want to ruin our family units so we are happy to keep each other where we are frim the time i felt i love this women i have expressed my feelings openly and truthfully when i query her live she gets upset yet will never tell me she loves me unless i say so and all our fights are about her feelings that she doesnt ezpress unless we get into a fight she will then say i love and dont want to lose you she makes me feel like its not real and forced i ask her dor the truth and if the truth is that she doesnt im happy to walk away i just dont want to be taken for a ride and she continues to do the same
Brief Answer:
Set up your preferences.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for sharing these issues with me.
First, I assure you that these talks are confidential.
Coming to your concerns, I understand your emotions for her.
But talking realistically, You also do not want to disturb your family unit.
Your family, your kids might not like you having an extramarital affair.
As you feel sad because of her behavior, this must be affecting your family in the sense that you won't be able to give them attention.
If you feel that, she is not understanding your emotions and love for her, you should ask her for her reply straight forward.
The important issue here is, how important is this relationship for you? Is it more important than your family and kids? What is the future of this relationship even if she agrees that she loves you?
I understand that it's difficult situation for you. But ultimately, it is you who is suffering emotionally.
So, my advice is, think about your preferences in life again and you will get your answer.
Hope this helps.
Feel free to discuss further.
Regards.
Set up your preferences.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for sharing these issues with me.
First, I assure you that these talks are confidential.
Coming to your concerns, I understand your emotions for her.
But talking realistically, You also do not want to disturb your family unit.
Your family, your kids might not like you having an extramarital affair.
As you feel sad because of her behavior, this must be affecting your family in the sense that you won't be able to give them attention.
If you feel that, she is not understanding your emotions and love for her, you should ask her for her reply straight forward.
The important issue here is, how important is this relationship for you? Is it more important than your family and kids? What is the future of this relationship even if she agrees that she loves you?
I understand that it's difficult situation for you. But ultimately, it is you who is suffering emotionally.
So, my advice is, think about your preferences in life again and you will get your answer.
Hope this helps.
Feel free to discuss further.
Regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
We have both agreed that out children will come first no matter what. She is the forst and inly women i have lived so how important is she to me ?
She is very important that id do anything for her i have although married for 24 years i havenever lived my wife i reapect her and always will i admire her doe being the mother of my children but i dont jave thise feelings like i have for this women when im around her i go week in the knees i truly love her
She told me at the start she didnt love me and she loved her husband and all we could be is friends so i questioned her is that how you look at your friends is that how you hold their hands and off corse when i confronted her she got upset and we had a fight.
On a previous occasion i had heard some rumours and wanted to see her and aak ber straight out about them abe rwdused and bkatantly forced the issue and wrongly went to visit her as those words had broken my heart to hear that people would be talking about her in such away id hated the rumours and i just wanted her ro be aware of these people that she called friends that wpisode had passed. We have so much in commin and share the best laughs we have had great rimes and would laugh rill our cheeks would be sore. We would see each other at friends parties ir get togethers and just the way wed look at each other i knew we were attratcted and she hapoily accepts that we are attracted and have that connection. So it wasnt just a friendship it was more. So again i asked domyou love me or not i need to know because im confused
We had a fight and when i threatened to leave and never be seen again she yes i do love you and i want you part of my life. Although we had both agreed that being in love doesnt mean that you sleep together and neither one was intreated in that xonsidering we are both married but both want wach other in our lives not to say its right but neither chose to fall in love whilst martied but love dound us. So we agreed that family time is important to us both contact only during work hours we chat on the way to work and on the way home. Id tell her i love her everyday and she would at times reply haof heartedly when i questioned again another fight she would never tell me she loves me unless i did ao naturalky id feel uneasy about it id question it and wed fight and all i want ro know is the truth does she love me or not and she say things like its black and whiite for you, its nit black or white ... Am i wrong by asking after comments like that ??
Shed say you know i do and id say no i dont if you dont tell me and again so
From all of that i tell her that she breaks my heart and makes me sad and miserable the way she treats if she chooses to treat me like that i think that she doesnt love me i tell her that she says nomi do
But continues to the same fight after fight
She is very important that id do anything for her i have although married for 24 years i havenever lived my wife i reapect her and always will i admire her doe being the mother of my children but i dont jave thise feelings like i have for this women when im around her i go week in the knees i truly love her
She told me at the start she didnt love me and she loved her husband and all we could be is friends so i questioned her is that how you look at your friends is that how you hold their hands and off corse when i confronted her she got upset and we had a fight.
On a previous occasion i had heard some rumours and wanted to see her and aak ber straight out about them abe rwdused and bkatantly forced the issue and wrongly went to visit her as those words had broken my heart to hear that people would be talking about her in such away id hated the rumours and i just wanted her ro be aware of these people that she called friends that wpisode had passed. We have so much in commin and share the best laughs we have had great rimes and would laugh rill our cheeks would be sore. We would see each other at friends parties ir get togethers and just the way wed look at each other i knew we were attratcted and she hapoily accepts that we are attracted and have that connection. So it wasnt just a friendship it was more. So again i asked domyou love me or not i need to know because im confused
We had a fight and when i threatened to leave and never be seen again she yes i do love you and i want you part of my life. Although we had both agreed that being in love doesnt mean that you sleep together and neither one was intreated in that xonsidering we are both married but both want wach other in our lives not to say its right but neither chose to fall in love whilst martied but love dound us. So we agreed that family time is important to us both contact only during work hours we chat on the way to work and on the way home. Id tell her i love her everyday and she would at times reply haof heartedly when i questioned again another fight she would never tell me she loves me unless i did ao naturalky id feel uneasy about it id question it and wed fight and all i want ro know is the truth does she love me or not and she say things like its black and whiite for you, its nit black or white ... Am i wrong by asking after comments like that ??
Shed say you know i do and id say no i dont if you dont tell me and again so
From all of that i tell her that she breaks my heart and makes me sad and miserable the way she treats if she chooses to treat me like that i think that she doesnt love me i tell her that she says nomi do
But continues to the same fight after fight
Brief Answer:
Love should be unconditional.
Detailed Answer:
Dear,
I feel that you becoming over-possesive for her.
I think the comments which she passes are more out of irritation.
If you both love and trust each other, then why would you need repeated confirmations from her?
Love should be unconditional. Do you feel you love her unconditionally? If yes, then do not ask her for giving you assurances again and again, that she loves you.
Stay calm. Trust her. Believe that she loves you. And you will feel better.
I wish you good health.
Take care.
Love should be unconditional.
Detailed Answer:
Dear,
I feel that you becoming over-possesive for her.
I think the comments which she passes are more out of irritation.
If you both love and trust each other, then why would you need repeated confirmations from her?
Love should be unconditional. Do you feel you love her unconditionally? If yes, then do not ask her for giving you assurances again and again, that she loves you.
Stay calm. Trust her. Believe that she loves you. And you will feel better.
I wish you good health.
Take care.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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