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How To Deal With Traumatic Memories?
Question: yes. thank you. I am an adult survivor of sexual abuse. started at age 4 through 17. my stepfather abused me on a weekly basis starting with molestation, sodomy and then multiple rape. my mother, now aging, lives with me (stepfather passed) and I can't get passed my feelings that are the opposite of what a daughter should feel for her mother. I am a wife, mother and grandmother, but around my mother, the abuse memories are strong. It is affecting my family life. advice?
Brief Answer:
Try life style modification technique
Detailed Answer:
Hi
Thanks for using healthcare magic. I, Dr Abhishek Kapoor, would help you in this query.
I have sympathy with you, but no one could change your past. What ever happened with you, that would stay in your memory and would difficult to forget. There is only one way to forget all this, that is to make new memories. For that, you have to either change your life style by using life style modification skills or try to stay away from the things that remind you about past.
You can not leave your mother. I think, that wouldn't be right. In current situation, she needs your help, so this option could not be possible in your case. Better to try first one. Life style modification. Try to spend more time with family member on weekend and other days. That would help you to control previous thoughts and help you to make new memories. You can take help of a psychologist for that.
In case, you need further help, you can ask.
Regards
Dr. Abhishek Kapoor
Psychiatrist
Try life style modification technique
Detailed Answer:
Hi
Thanks for using healthcare magic. I, Dr Abhishek Kapoor, would help you in this query.
I have sympathy with you, but no one could change your past. What ever happened with you, that would stay in your memory and would difficult to forget. There is only one way to forget all this, that is to make new memories. For that, you have to either change your life style by using life style modification skills or try to stay away from the things that remind you about past.
You can not leave your mother. I think, that wouldn't be right. In current situation, she needs your help, so this option could not be possible in your case. Better to try first one. Life style modification. Try to spend more time with family member on weekend and other days. That would help you to control previous thoughts and help you to make new memories. You can take help of a psychologist for that.
In case, you need further help, you can ask.
Regards
Dr. Abhishek Kapoor
Psychiatrist
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