I am almost hesitant to even ask. I am 39, almost 40, years old. I am married with three children. I have never had difficulties conceiving, but have had a miscarriage. My husband has had ED, with no ejaculation, but is receiving some relief from getting his diabetes under better control. I have been off Mirena IUD for almost a year and have normal periods. I am now SEVERAL days late, mild cramping with no period start. I have begun frequent urination with not necessarily a full bladder, with no burning or stinging. Frequent pressure headaches and mood swings. Some mild nausea, once that woke me from sleep with my sphincter feeling as if it were opening and closing. I forced myself to overcome it. Two tests one midday neg, one early morning with a shadowy line. I worry that if I am, about complications due to my age, the other is if I am not, I am NOT ready for menopause.