I spent a year in therapy being told that it was not my fault that I was raped even though I was the one that voluntarily decided to hang out with him that day (was a coworker) almost a year and a half after the rape I am still getting emails and contacted from his friends and others who worked with us (i has since gotten out of that job) saying that it was my fault? These are people that knew both me and him...my therapist only knows me so she probably just saying that its not my fault cause she does not know him. so was it my fault for voluntarily choosing to hang out with him? he was nice to me and i never felt threatened prior to the rape and i considered him a friend in addition to a coworker. oh yeah a few more details 1. neither of us were drinking 2. we were hanging out just shopping, etc..then he drove me to a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me. i did not know where we were or anything 3. i was wearing jeans and a sweatshirt so its not like i was dressed provacative or anything. 4. we hung out other times before he raped me. never felt threatened those times. 5. i was new to town so i did not know anyone outside of work and was just happy that i finally made a friend