Well I ve been with my boyfriend for three years now. Lately we ve been having more sex than normal because of trying new things to spice things up because I used to complain that we didn t have sex enough. We stopped using condoms after I moved in with him because I was on birth control and neither of us were ever tested positive for a disease. Well about a week ago I noticed a spot on the base of his penis, he said it had a white crust on it. He said he picked off the white crust. We both just assumed that it was nothing because he said it didn t hurt or anything. Well we proceed with both oral and regular sex. Now, a week later I have a spot on my lip. I m not sure if it s a cold sore or not, I ve never had one. And at first I just assumed it was a zit, it s right on the bottom of my bottom lip where I ve had outbreaks before plus I m on my period and have gotten a few other zits on other areas of my face from that. I didn t notice it until I looked in the mirror at it. It wasn t sore and I didn t get any of the symptoms that supposedly show up with herpes/cold sores. It hasn t popped open and caused a crust yet and it didn t hurt at all until I started picking at it trying to figure out what it was. When I remembered what happened with my boyfriend I wondered if perhaps one of us gave the other herpes? I m absolutely certain he s never cheated on me and I haven t cheated on him. And we were both single for almost two years before we met each other. I ve heard that you can also get herpes from touching things people with herpes have touched and not washed their hands after touching the affected area, or kissing a family member with it or anything like that. Is it possible that one of us got it this way without knowing and gave it to the other? I haven t had any outbreaks anywhere else, just my lip which makes me want to believe it isn t herpes and I m just paranoid. But I really want to know if maybe we should get tested? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.