Nothing of this sort. it is a very common problem. should have no apprehension. a foreplay is likely to be helpful. Anxiety
will keep u in a vicious cycle where dryness and stiffness/spasm will get aggravated. selected audiovisual stimuli (movies) are helpful. Vaginal lubricants are also the next line of management. In love marraiges this problem is rarely reported because excitement is more and fear/ anxiety is less. So things really lie in mind and not locally.