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What Causes Difficulty In Getting Orgasms?
Question: I'm 19 and every time I have sex with my boyfriend or if we have foreplay I never cum. It's like I can't cum. Is there something wrong? It's really annoying because he feels like he's not satisfying me which upsets us both. Please help
Brief Answer:
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Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXX,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I can understand worry of your to be not able to cum.
Considering your age I don't' think so that you do have any physical problem.
I guess some methodical problem or some misunderstanding there.
Just understand normal sex physiology.
When erect penis enters female vagina and friction occurs between vaginal wall and penis, female feels excitement, extreme XXXXXXX and feeling of being in heaven.
This feelings last for few seconds or minute and called orgasm.This orgasm means female has cum.
No specific secretion comes from female during orgasm like in male.
In male when ejaculation of semen occurs, he feels orgasm and we call male cum.
Just check that your hymen is completely broken and penis is entering in vagina.
Another option to have orgasm is masturbation.
You can try alone or with help of your boyfriend by rubbing your clitoris gently and feel orgasm. If you can cum by this method you can surely cum by sex also.
Female can cum consecutively 3-4 times in single act while male can cum only once in an act. In male other orgasm can be possible after 30 -45 minutes gap of last ejaculation which is called refractory period.
late me know how would your experience after understanding above physiology and method.You can discuss with your boyfriend also what I have explained.
Thanks & regards,
Dr. Chintan Solanki
See below
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXX,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I can understand worry of your to be not able to cum.
Considering your age I don't' think so that you do have any physical problem.
I guess some methodical problem or some misunderstanding there.
Just understand normal sex physiology.
When erect penis enters female vagina and friction occurs between vaginal wall and penis, female feels excitement, extreme XXXXXXX and feeling of being in heaven.
This feelings last for few seconds or minute and called orgasm.This orgasm means female has cum.
No specific secretion comes from female during orgasm like in male.
In male when ejaculation of semen occurs, he feels orgasm and we call male cum.
Just check that your hymen is completely broken and penis is entering in vagina.
Another option to have orgasm is masturbation.
You can try alone or with help of your boyfriend by rubbing your clitoris gently and feel orgasm. If you can cum by this method you can surely cum by sex also.
Female can cum consecutively 3-4 times in single act while male can cum only once in an act. In male other orgasm can be possible after 30 -45 minutes gap of last ejaculation which is called refractory period.
late me know how would your experience after understanding above physiology and method.You can discuss with your boyfriend also what I have explained.
Thanks & regards,
Dr. Chintan Solanki
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Yogesh D
How can I check if my hymen has completely broken?
Brief Answer:
see below
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
You can check by gentley inseriting your fingers step by step.
First insert your little dinger,if it is going inside without any pain enter ring finger. If ring finger is going without any pain or without feeling any thin skin around it , insert two fingers. If two fingers enter easily , your hymen is surely not intact.
Another way to judge this is by your boyfriend. If his erect penis enter fully in vagina without any pain, it is broken.
And still any confusion, go to gynecologist and check yourself.
Hope I have answered your query.
Regards.
Dr . Chintan Solanki.
see below
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
You can check by gentley inseriting your fingers step by step.
First insert your little dinger,if it is going inside without any pain enter ring finger. If ring finger is going without any pain or without feeling any thin skin around it , insert two fingers. If two fingers enter easily , your hymen is surely not intact.
Another way to judge this is by your boyfriend. If his erect penis enter fully in vagina without any pain, it is broken.
And still any confusion, go to gynecologist and check yourself.
Hope I have answered your query.
Regards.
Dr . Chintan Solanki.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Yogesh D
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